i can see why they did the things they did, mentally stunted, abused (bro is in survival mode for literally all of his life), hes def autistic = he doesnt understand why other people do the things they do unless its explicitly stated to him (like if they say "stop" he'll stop but he wont know why and would repeat the same mistake.) lack of education, lack of healthy interpersonal relationships. bro was dealt a bad hand on top of a lot of unfortunate circumstances. maybe in a different life he were more lucky but this one, not so much. 1. developmental disorder 2. abusive family 3. unstable attachment to caregivers / no stable caregivers at all, abusive "caregivers" 4. not being socialized at all at a young age (aka not being taught how go socialize etc), not taught what is right from wrong, etc. BRO JS CAME INTO THIS WORLD DEBUFFED. HE DOESNT HAVE THE OBSERVE AND INFER SKILL LIKE EVERYONE ELSE DOES. AND ON TOP OF THAT HE DIDNT HAVE SOMEONE TO TEACH HIM THAT PBSERVE AND INFER SKILL. AND HE JS GOES ABOUT LIFE LIKE "yea what im doing is completely normal" BECAUSE EAST ASIAN CULTURE, THEY ALWAYS INDIRECTLY SAY NO, LIKE SOMETHING LIKE "sorry im busy", or "oh haha next time", AND AS A NEURODIVERGENT INDIVIDUAL. WE (or some of us) TAKE THIS LITERALY. WE NEED OTHERS TO BE UPFRONT.
like all this could have been prevented if bro had a trusted adult by his side, BUT NO. HE GOT THIS FUCKING CREEP OF A TEACHER. DO U KNOW HOW FUCKED UP HIS VIEW OF ADULTS, HOW TO BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP AND JS OF LIFE OVERALL IS. like bro didnt have a singluar healthy / "normal" thing in his world. THIS IS HOW THE OPPRESSED KEEP BEING OPPRESSED. BE KIND. BE PATIENT WITH PEOPLE. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT THEYRE GOING THROUGH OR WHAT ACCOMADATIONS THEY NEED. YOU NEVER KNOW IF UR KIND AND PATIENT INTERACTION WITH AN ABUSIVE AUTISTIC KID WILL HELP CHANGE THE JUST A LITTLE SOMETHING IN SOMEONES LIFE. but to be realist, he needs intensive therapy. at back then AND now. like i mean bro needs to be on the clock.
itd probably be really hard for him to change all his views now cuz i think hes like almost 30 and by this time people have already formed and solidified their core beliefs and perceptions of life. gonna be pretty hard work for whoevers taking care of him. theyre gonna have him unlearn a lot of bad habits (or if hes unable to, learn how to manage them and keep them to a minimum / outsource his feelings in different, less harmful ways, CUZ CUTTING UP UR LOVED ONES IS NOT. ITS JUST. ITS NOT WHERE ALL THE FIRES AT.) etc etc
coming from someone who had to unlearn lots of unhealthy coping mechanism, harmful core beliefs and mindsets. i was DEFINITELY not at fucked up as heonjae, but yknow. theres always hope. even if youre pushing your 30s.... probably.... WITH A LOT OF HARD WORK AND DEDICATION.
i can see why they did the things they did, mentally stunted, abused (bro is in survival mode for literally all of his life), hes def autistic = he doesnt understand why other people do the things they do unless its explicitly stated to him (like if they say "stop" he'll stop but he wont know why and would repeat the same mistake.) lack of education, lack of healthy interpersonal relationships. bro was dealt a bad hand on top of a lot of unfortunate circumstances. maybe in a different life he were more lucky but this one, not so much. 1. developmental disorder 2. abusive family 3. unstable attachment to caregivers / no stable caregivers at all, abusive "caregivers" 4. not being socialized at all at a young age (aka not being taught how go socialize etc), not taught what is right from wrong, etc. BRO JS CAME INTO THIS WORLD DEBUFFED. HE DOESNT HAVE THE OBSERVE AND INFER SKILL LIKE EVERYONE ELSE DOES. AND ON TOP OF THAT HE DIDNT HAVE SOMEONE TO TEACH HIM THAT PBSERVE AND INFER SKILL. AND HE JS GOES ABOUT LIFE LIKE "yea what im doing is completely normal" BECAUSE EAST ASIAN CULTURE, THEY ALWAYS INDIRECTLY SAY NO, LIKE SOMETHING LIKE "sorry im busy", or "oh haha next time", AND AS A NEURODIVERGENT INDIVIDUAL. WE (or some of us) TAKE THIS LITERALY. WE NEED OTHERS TO BE UPFRONT.
like all this could have been prevented if bro had a trusted adult by his side, BUT NO. HE GOT THIS FUCKING CREEP OF A TEACHER. DO U KNOW HOW FUCKED UP HIS VIEW OF ADULTS, HOW TO BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP AND JS OF LIFE OVERALL IS. like bro didnt have a singluar healthy / "normal" thing in his world. THIS IS HOW THE OPPRESSED KEEP BEING OPPRESSED. BE KIND. BE PATIENT WITH PEOPLE. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT THEYRE GOING THROUGH OR WHAT ACCOMADATIONS THEY NEED. YOU NEVER KNOW IF UR KIND AND PATIENT INTERACTION WITH AN ABUSIVE AUTISTIC KID WILL HELP CHANGE THE JUST A LITTLE SOMETHING IN SOMEONES LIFE. but to be realist, he needs intensive therapy. at back then AND now. like i mean bro needs to be on the clock.
itd probably be really hard for him to change all his views now cuz i think hes like almost 30 and by this time people have already formed and solidified their core beliefs and perceptions of life. gonna be pretty hard work for whoevers taking care of him. theyre gonna have him unlearn a lot of bad habits (or if hes unable to, learn how to manage them and keep them to a minimum / outsource his feelings in different, less harmful ways, CUZ CUTTING UP UR LOVED ONES IS NOT. ITS JUST. ITS NOT WHERE ALL THE FIRES AT.) etc etc
coming from someone who had to unlearn lots of unhealthy coping mechanism, harmful core beliefs and mindsets. i was DEFINITELY not at fucked up as heonjae, but yknow. theres always hope. even if youre pushing your 30s.... probably.... WITH A LOT OF HARD WORK AND DEDICATION.