I’m not obsessed with it, but I do like bl and I do tend to read it more than other genres. Simply because I really do like the stories not all of them are good tho there’s definitely a lot of problematic ones, but there’s also a lot of great stories. BL to be a lot more diverse than straight romance. personally, I really like action/psychological bls.
For me personally, its cause most straight stories more often than not follow the damsel in distress trope which pisses me the fuck off cause it reinforces patriarchal norms and portrays women as vulnerable and fragile things that can't solve their life problems without the help of a man.
When the same damsel in distress trope is used for bl's it doesn't feel the same if anything it feels refreshing to see a man actually express his emotions and accept help from someone, tho regardless i prefer stories that don't follow the trope.
Bl's portray men way more emotionally expressive than straight stories do.
I wouldn't say I'm obsessed with it but as a queer woman I'll tell you what I like about it. First I'd like to add I don't like the super toxic problematic ones I'm talking about the decent ones. On one side it is relatablea loooot of the time while i am not a gay man I am queer and there are some aspects of that that are very similar especially like in the way people would treat you what struggles you might be faced with both internally with yourself and with society. On the other side I like that I can read a story without seeing myself in it kinda? In my experience more times than not in straight ones there's always women portrayed badly sometimes we're objectified sometimes overly sexualized sometimes portrayed as dumb creatures that are stupid have stupid interests and just "ruin the plot" among other things. Well if you read a story that doesn't involve women but only men... problem solved you don't feel like shit reading it and as someone who does like men too you can enjoy the story and the characters without ever feeling targeted in any way! Soooo like me like men, story with more (at least double) hot and cute men, no bad portrayal of me, I like. And then of course it's also because people get soooo creative with it there's just a lot of interesting plots I wouldn't want to miss out on that!
I think I like the chemistry a lot more in bl than straight romance. Like for me it's not all about the smut, even though I still like it because it shows the intimacy and connection between the characters (when it's not pointless smashing lol). But idk just the connection between characters in some stories gives me butterflies more so than straight romance
Not trying to hurt anyone feeling just curious