I understand how tough it can be to wait for someone to share the same affection right back at you, use me and my boyfriend for an example, he struggles to care about the things I care about, he struggles to comfort me, he struggles to share and show the same feelings and affection even though he loves me very much and so do i.
I hold multiple grudges against my boyfriend, which is where I can understand uke, even though it's only subtle grudges so I can't relate fully(it's only stuff that has only ever bothered me in our relationship, nothing that has ruined our relationship with each other).
And with ukes trauma, it's something he should've brought up with his boyfriend, he does not have to explain in full detail or go into depth with it, he should have just let him know so they wouldn't get into a fight like this.
But after all of this, he shouldn't have walked out on the spot, he shouldn't have gotten mad, he shouldn't have yelled or anything like that. What he SHOULD have done, he should've calmly voiced his concerns and speak his thoughts. That's how you make a healthy relationship.
Neither of them are in the right nor in the wrong, to both be right is to both accept and love each other, to wait and make a safe place for your partner to feel like they can relax and speak what's on their mind without feeling scared of you getting mad or of the thought of you leaving.
I understand how tough it can be to wait for someone to share the same affection right back at you, use me and my boyfriend for an example, he struggles to care about the things I care about, he struggles to comfort me, he struggles to share and show the same feelings and affection even though he loves me very much and so do i.
I hold multiple grudges against my boyfriend, which is where I can understand uke, even though it's only subtle grudges so I can't relate fully(it's only stuff that has only ever bothered me in our relationship, nothing that has ruined our relationship with each other).
And with ukes trauma, it's something he should've brought up with his boyfriend, he does not have to explain in full detail or go into depth with it, he should have just let him know so they wouldn't get into a fight like this.
But after all of this, he shouldn't have walked out on the spot, he shouldn't have gotten mad, he shouldn't have yelled or anything like that. What he SHOULD have done, he should've calmly voiced his concerns and speak his thoughts. That's how you make a healthy relationship.
Neither of them are in the right nor in the wrong, to both be right is to both accept and love each other, to wait and make a safe place for your partner to feel like they can relax and speak what's on their mind without feeling scared of you getting mad or of the thought of you leaving.