This guy is a sincere loser /pos

babao October 26, 2024 8:32 pm

It's a privilege for Jaehyuk to be honest with affections. People who are able to even live a promiscuous life AND convert to a committed relationship are actually quite uncommon individuals who were raised pretty well and without that flagship generational trauma. On a logical stance, siding with Jaehyuk's sentiment and reactions are completely valid. But are we forgetting that Garam and Jaehyuk live two completely different lives and ways if handling relationships?

Jaehyuk was a straight man, no one would give a damn about his life. And then there's Garam who was subjected to take the brunt of the blame and responsibility for feeling a bit of love towards someone of the same sex. Since then he's refused to place a label on relationships. Other than that, I do feel that at least once in our lives we've actually acquainted or even befriended a person who was "emotionally constipated" but was highly attentive to our feelings (i.e. remembered important dates, or the things you say in passing). Those kinds of people may not be the best at emotional support, but they're always trying make sure you're safe even if they're awkward around you. I think Garam falls in that category, he's blunt and he isn't afraid to stand his ground, he doesn't care what others think and weighs his actions as best as he could.

While Jaehyuk's frustrations are actually valid, it's just difficult to actually swallow to see your partner frustrated because of your emotional constipation. The fact that he even walked out makes matters worse. I'm assuming that Jaehyuk actually fumed due to the lack of sleep and accumulated stress, but fuming and walking out doesn't help de-escalate the situation. Should you have had doubts in the first place, you should've addressed it sooner rather than wait until a trigger point just makes matters explode.

Both sides have fair points and fair reactions, I just feel that we, as readers, take things too much at logical value instead of understanding where the individual characters come from. Garam just fucked a straight guy out into homosexuality, Jaehyuk is basically a newborn in Gay World, he hasn't had a taste of religious guilt, societal ostracization, and filial burden. I fear we wouldn't be a true veteran LGBT if we haven't had even just once in our life a taste of religious guilt - I think that seals the deal for a true lived LGBT experience. The moment Jaehyuk actually witnesses the depth and layers of dilemmas the gays have is the day he realizes how much more decisions they have to make in their relationship.

Communication is so easy to say as an advice. But no one talks about the lump in your throat or the way your stomach feels heavy when you try to speak the very words that you know can save your relationship because it opens the deepest insecurities and fears you've had for years. People like Garam know it. At the back of their heads they know there is something wrong with them which is why, in the first place, Garam was initially committed to never be in a relationship in the first place because he actually Knew that he was emotionally constipated, mistrustful, and too burdensome emotionally. But still he caved in, Jaehyuk was too convincing and sincere that maybe, just maybe, there's a way to actually change the way he perceives the world of relationships.

Nonetheless, I can't wait to see when we witness Garam being a bit more affectionate. I feel like as the years go by that you refrain yourself from telling someone you care about them verbally, the harder it gets and the more abstract it becomes as an idea in your head - as if it is such a foreign emotion that your body cringes and writhes at it like it's telling you that you don't deserve to receive affection or that you're not worthy enough to give affection. The moment that an individual like this actually starts to feel comfortable again to show affection, you just know how devoted they will be to you. It'll take time, but it is a worth it learning and growth process that heals old wounds and reinforces the one's wellbeing. And I can't wait to witness the growth of their relationship from being a rocky on-off FUBU now to adolescents navigating the unknown future together, with Jaehyuk being so pushy and Garam being someone who doesn't leave out the truth, the two of them are going to make it eventually.

Other than that, I actually did Not expect this manhwa to be pretty decent. I picked it up again a while back and reread the entire thing. It was definitely comedy but there's something about Garam and Jaehyuk that's so good. Their chemistry is no joke, I love their developments and dynamic.

Responses
    Leviathan October 26, 2024 8:48 pm

    Yap

    kyo October 26, 2024 9:14 pm
    Yap Leviathan

    I'M DEAD

    Mr.Poleiyo October 26, 2024 9:24 pm

    Danm, you wrote the entire essay here hahahaha
    Completely agree, even though I don't think jaehyuk is gay, but bi.

    DitoDitowski October 26, 2024 9:43 pm

    I love U

    Simp4Sukuna October 26, 2024 10:21 pm

    can anyone give a summary? tl;dr

    Beomgyulvr1 October 27, 2024 12:25 am
    can anyone give a summary? tl;dr Simp4Sukuna

    Jaehyuk was straight; garam is not
    Garam had to live with “the burden” of being attracted to the same gender, since then he refused to place labels on relationships.
    The commenter thinks that garam is someone who doesn’t say his affections out loud, but is very attentive to people’s feelings.
    Commenter thinks jaehyuks points were valid, but he shouldve addressed his worries sooner to garam.
    Jaehyuk doesnt know what the lgbtq community goes through, so he doesnt know the decisions him and garam will have to make later on.
    Communication is hard for garam because it opens the deepest insecurities and fears he has.
    The commenter is excited for when garam is affectionate towards jaehyuk and their relationship growth.