Friends?

Someone in the world October 25, 2024 6:39 pm

Idk about manga, but in real life that does not work... I love my friends and couldn't cut them of or not be in contact just because jealousy. If they "love" me that way, just never go out alone with them, friendly distance, etc. Not cutting of or not talking cause my partner is jealous without reason.. am I wrong?

Responses
    Sam the idiot October 25, 2024 6:46 pm

    Yes you are by prioritizing your friendship rather than your partner and hurting both the friend and partner in the process since the Friend will have hope since u still hang out with em and your partner losing trust on you.

    Best possible outcome is to cut the friend off for everyone's sake

    Viixine October 25, 2024 7:05 pm
    Yes you are by prioritizing your friendship rather than your partner and hurting both the friend and partner in the process since the Friend will have hope since u still hang out with em and your partner losing... Sam the idiot

    But then again your partner is also not being considerate of your own social life over their feelings, so I don't think it's the best choice to cut off a friend just because your partner isn't being accommodating of you having a bond with anyone other than them. Your partner shouldn't be losing trust in you and the relationship just because you also have a friendly relationship with other people, ykwim?

    Someone in the world October 25, 2024 7:08 pm

    My Bf is jealous cause we were super close childhood friends. We have talked about it, and I have put some distance between my friend and I. But I miss him so bad.. I didn't do anything wrong but it feels like I did..

    Sam the idiot October 25, 2024 7:29 pm
    But then again your partner is also not being considerate of your own social life over their feelings, so I don't think it's the best choice to cut off a friend just because your partner isn't being accommodati... Viixine

    It's not "some friendship" though. It's a friend who's bold enough to express their feelings for you knowing fully that you have a partner.


    Is it ethical or morally right for your partner?

    Sam the idiot October 25, 2024 7:31 pm
    My Bf is jealous cause we were super close childhood friends. We have talked about it, and I have put some distance between my friend and I. But I miss him so bad.. I didn't do anything wrong but it feels like ... Someone in the world

    Now that is your bf's fault and I feel bad for your friend. Unless they tried to hit on you or smth else that's bad.

    But again it's your relationship and balancing it right is your choice but don't let your partner totally control it.

    This manhwas situation and your situation is different in my opinion

    balmy17 October 25, 2024 7:56 pm

    I agree with you. If there is only friendship and theres no confession or anything, it's okay not to cut ties with them. Having proper distance like not being with them alone is enough. It's natural to feel jealousy but if it causes you problem then it's not good anymore.

    There should be trust between you and your partner. How can your partner say he/she trust you if he wants you to cut ties with your friends who you consider as part of your family?

    And you as a good partner will not give him/her good reason to be jealous over your friends. Always hang out by group and avoid too much personal communication with them.

    Someone in the world October 25, 2024 9:40 pm

    I feel bad cause that friend said they like me after i started my relationship!! I made my choice clear and put distance in our friendship, like, months with no contact cause I wanted him to get over me, and respect my bf. Now I'm always being careful not to say/do/interact with him in no way to give him hope. But I do see him cause we have the same friends. And I love him as a person/friend. I want him in my life, but I don't want to hurt my Bf who I love. But he's being my friend for 15 years and it's hard for me to cut him off.. I really sad.. sorry for rambling :(

    Someone in the world October 25, 2024 9:41 pm
    I agree with you. If there is only friendship and theres no confession or anything, it's okay not to cut ties with them. Having proper distance like not being with them alone is enough. It's natural to feel jea... balmy17

    Thanks for this advice and for trying to understand my situation. You're really sweet.

    Someone in the world October 25, 2024 9:45 pm
    Now that is your bf's fault and I feel bad for your friend. Unless they tried to hit on you or smth else that's bad.But again it's your relationship and balancing it right is your choice but don't let your part... Sam the idiot

    It's different yes, (=・ω・=)..
    I'm just stupid idk, I don't wanna lose anyone precious in my life.. ╥﹏╥

    Viixine October 25, 2024 10:15 pm
    It's not "some friendship" though. It's a friend who's bold enough to express their feelings for you knowing fully that you have a partner.Is it ethical or morally right for your partner? Sam the idiot

    Ah sorry I misread the original question cuz of the wording "without reason" in the last sentence and thought OP meant that BF is jealous without any reason (as in the friend just thinks of them as a friend)

    noot noot October 25, 2024 11:21 pm

    depends on what ur friend did, in this situation the friend is purposefully going after him even as far as to instigate something with the boyfriend, If I had a friend like that he’s getting cut off asap bc even if I’m not gonna cheat why on earth would I hang out with someone that’s purposefully trying to ruin my relationship. that’s crossing a boundary and disrespectful

    noot noot October 25, 2024 11:23 pm
    I agree with you. If there is only friendship and theres no confession or anything, it's okay not to cut ties with them. Having proper distance like not being with them alone is enough. It's natural to feel jea... balmy17

    this!!! and it’s always good to make it CLEAR, I can’t get dating someone or u urself are “naturally touchy” or “naturally just flirty like that” with their friends, thats a big no no. trust goes both ways

    Miss M. October 25, 2024 11:33 pm

    This is why single people are happier.

    Someone in the world October 26, 2024 4:01 am
    this!!! and it’s always good to make it CLEAR, I can’t get dating someone or u urself are “naturally touchy” or “naturally just flirty like that” with their friends, thats a big no no. trust goes b... noot noot

    I agree, I was touchy with my friends when I was single, but not anymore after dating and put some boundaries. That's it's normal and I'm fine with it.
    thanks for your comment.

    noot noot October 26, 2024 4:53 am
    I agree, I was touchy with my friends when I was single, but not anymore after dating and put some boundaries. That's it's normal and I'm fine with it.thanks for your comment. Someone in the world

    period!