Was born, raised and lived for 18 years in a very small community fishing town. Still hate homophobes and people up in other people's business. Whoever anyone dates is nobody else's fucking business and using your neighbor's private information without their knowledge or consent is still a crime even in the middle of the forest
It's great that you came out that way, not everyone can say the same. I'm not trying to excuse what she did. It is a crime, and she should definitely be punished for that. I'm saying that, her circumstances play a part in her actions and she needs to be educated rather than crucified.
You know what it's like. It's absolutely miserable not being able to make your own decisions or have opinions outside of the "norm". There are things they choose not to teach entirely or things that are simply false information.
This is not me trying to justify what she did. Even if her intentions were not malicious, it doesn't change the fact that it was completely wrong, a crime. If I come off that way, I'm sorry.
All I'm saying is, I can see how she got there. Rather than being mad about the obvious crime she committed, I'm disappointed.
I was actually born and raised with a small town mentality, where people get married early "to the right people," or where your parents are the top authority no matter what decision you want to make, very outdated shit (even worse with an abusive family), but even then when I moved to a bigger city I learned it was normal, and I always knew that charing information could get you in trouble. Plus, she did go to Seoul to study before she went to live with her grandmother,...and she did ask him if he wanted a girlfriend, and if he wanted to go on a blind date, but he said no...and she went and did it anyway.
That she did. She's definitely wrong for that. Again, I'm not trying to justify what she did. It is wrong. But people calling her a bitch because she's nosey and ignorant... I just think that the hatred being thrown at her does not fit the crime committed, especially when she wasn't trying to be malicious (as far as I can tell anyway, we'll see).
Also, I'm glad you got out of that community. Unlearning internalized ideologies is difficult for a lot of people, I'm so glad you did that for yourself. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
I know, I think sometimes people use such words because it's normal (a friend used to call me bitch until I told her to stop, but for her it was normal), plus they get passionate about it.
I'm really trying not to offend you over this, but I'm lumping her in with those guys at the bar that can't take a hint. They push and push even if you've declined multiple times and think they'll be the best thing that could ever happen to someone and it's that someone's loss to have missed the opportunity to be with such a package
Some of y'all never been to a small community town and it shows.