surprising development

at first I was a bit annoyed at the "WE'RE TOGETHER AND LIVE TOGETHER FOR YEARS BUT LIKE NO HOMO" plot at the beginning but it was interesting how it was explored.

Also kinda really realistic? Like how basically Daichi didn't overly analyze his sexuality because he just kept on telling himself "it's just HIM, I'm not gay in general!", but then with time and seeing his behavior and his partner's shift and how much this relationship was a big part of his life and thus defined him, while being a secret to others, he started questioning who he was and what defined him. That can be pretty rough, especially in such a conformist society where sexuality and gender identity are not as talked about, and it is considered shameful to not fulfill your duty to your family to raise a hetero family and have biological children.

I know I had an identity crisis when I was younger and came to terms with my own queerness. There's so much you need to unpack.

I always find it interesting how queer relationships are a lot more complex and reflective in some ways than hetero ones. What I mean by that is that for many straight people, the ways one dates, falls in love, builds a relationship have been told to us through stories in thousands of ways. Most people have expectations of what that relationship is "supposed" to look like, and also there is this sense that their partner should fill in for things they lack. Like, women are more "nurturing" whereas men are meant to be "relied on", women do housework and men have ambitious careers, women are passive and men are assertive during sex, etc. These thankfully are most antiquated ideas stereotypes, but many people still get trapped by these ways of thinking, even in little ways. It's the culture we have been raised in afterall.
But queer relationships are more reflective. When you have two men or two women or one cis and one trans or nonbinary person or even multiple people dating each other, these stiff rules fall apart. A very common joke in sapphic circles is "do I want her or do I want to be her?", which is a very common and real feeling that I honestly don't think many people in straight relationships recognize! Because desire is very complicated and wrapped up with identity, and that comes out to the surface (more easily) in queer relationships.

Thinking more in these terms, I find the relationship depicted here more interesting. Daichi's obsession with being seen as "equal" instead of "the woman" (tho they fuckin calling him the wife in the end >_> lol). Idk lots of food for thought ^^