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He wants to take care of his boyfriend's mental health tho. There's a difference between coddling and taking care of someone who has d e p r e s s i on

Alright. As an amateur swimmer, don’t throw away your own life raft to save a drowning man. Get a lifeguard or else you’ll both end up drowning.

Getting rid of your means of supporting yourself and your partner (because in most situations like this, the partner would be too depressed to function in a normal job) is only going to kneecap both of you.

You could run through your savings, taking care of them. But without getting them proper help, eventually the money will run out. They won’t get better, and now both sides become resentful as they spiral into poverty, eventually breaking up because the relationship becomes toxic. The only way to help someone this depressed, is to get them
p r o f e s s i o n a l help. Medication. Anything. A concerned and loving partner is unfortunately never enough.

Of course this is a story that’s not a tragedy so it will work out. But please never think the power of love will pull someone out of their depressive state. It didn’t for my family.

Tl;dr The power of love isn’t proper medical treatment. Professional treatment and living costs money. Don’t quit your job because you need the money to get help and to live.

Bros bros all of your points are vaild, I agree! But, I'm pretty sure they both have enough savings to support themselves for a while. One is a famous writer and another is a freelance editor. They should be secure financially lmao (I hope?)

Also, professional help and proper medication is the way to go to help someone heal, I also agree! But, support should always start from home. It's the first step! Sometimes the support of the people you live with becomes the main reason if you even seek help in the first place.

Coming from someone who struggles with mental health, my family's support love and understanding has been the number one reason I manage day to day. And ofc therapy and meds.