People need to understand what “grooming” actually is. Because it’s being thrown around a bit too lightly and we all need to be more educated about it…. Grooming is done with the INTENTION to build trust with a child with the intention to use, manipulate, exploit. Typically in a sexual manner.
Assuming: the FL raising a child who never saw her as a parent, and eventually falls for her which she never intended or wanted to happen (and is shocked by it). Not grooming. Just socially inappropriate. If she declines the advances in his adulthood and he continues to persist, now that falls into him being the aggressor.
Now if she is going to raise him to then use him to fight against the church, then yeah that’s grooming. Because of the intention to use/manipulate him. But I think people don’t really consider that THAT big of a problem especially in revenge stories— we’re just icked by him falling for her as an adult because of their close relationship during childhood. But please note that intention is always important)
People need to understand what “grooming” actually is. Because it’s being thrown around a bit too lightly and we all need to be more educated about it…. Grooming is done with the INTENTION to build trust with a child with the intention to use, manipulate, exploit. Typically in a sexual manner.
Assuming: the FL raising a child who never saw her as a parent, and eventually falls for her which she never intended or wanted to happen (and is shocked by it). Not grooming. Just socially inappropriate. If she declines the advances in his adulthood and he continues to persist, now that falls into him being the aggressor.
Now if she is going to raise him to then use him to fight against the church, then yeah that’s grooming. Because of the intention to use/manipulate him. But I think people don’t really consider that THAT big of a problem especially in revenge stories— we’re just icked by him falling for her as an adult because of their close relationship during childhood. But please note that intention is always important)