To clarify, there’s nothing bad about being divorced. What I meant was, that even people who have entered marriage (society’s currently most accepted form of highest commitment of one person to another) and left it for whatever reason can still find themselves happy in a new love. Sleeping around is nothing compared to that and that certainly doesn’t disallow you to be in a serious relationship if you ever fall in love.
My beef is with sleeping around with someone who’s not the person you love and thinking it’s alright for the reason that “it’s not cheating since we’re not together yet”. Yes, you didn’t cheat on your loved one, you cheated on yourself.
Kinda stupid. Makes me glad I don’t have that someone who claims they’ve loved me for forever only to fuck around while “loving” me. It’s fine to have a past with or without love (heck, even divorced people certainly have a chance at new love), but I don’t understand how it’s okay to sleep around with other people while saying you’ve only ever loved one person… I mean, sure, I kinda understand doing it to try to move on but he hadn’t even confessed yet or gotten rejected yet and the other person was still trying his best to get where they both can be together. Do other people think that this is just normal and natural? That since they’re not together yet, what happens before the relationship starts means nothing at all? Sure, Tsukasa technically didn’t betray Riku but he sure as hell betrayed himself and the love he’s held on for so long. If sex with other people doesn’t mean anything, just technically seeking bodily pleasures, in short - masturbating but with other people, then what does his love of ten years even really mean anyway? I’m not angry at Tsukasa for Riku or anything like that ‘cause as I said, he technically didn’t betray Riku or their relationship since they weren’t in one yet, I’m angry at Tsukasa for Tsukasa and as a principle. I’m not mad he slept around, I’m mad he slept around while in love with someone. Like, please cherish yourself more and please cherish your spiritual and emotional health a little bit more. Saving yourself for someone special might sound cheesy or even ridiculous and something only a virgin would say, but I really believe it can be fulfilling in a higher level than physical pleasure. “Do it with someone you like” might sound old-school and your first time might not be your last or your forever, and it might not even be someone you have any particular feelings for, but at least don’t be let it be someone that’s not the person you actually love and don’t let there be a divide between your body and soul - that’s just being disrespectful on three counts: to your sexual partner, to your “feelings”, and most importantly, to yourself.
This is just me, though, and if you don’t agree then be kind to yourself and don’t take it to heart.