tamen de gushi
For some reason i can't copy the link to my list, so just check out my list titled 'GL', haven't read them all completely but they're all pretty good with how much I've read. You don't need to follow the list, just save the ones you like.
Sorry, there r none
Relationship guidelines
Ghosts of greywoods
Getting to know grace
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/colorful_antinomy/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hanamonogatari/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/if_you_can_t_kill_me_love_me/
a few that i personally like for all the reasons you listed (they dont come off as heteronormative, male gaze-y, overly sexualised) <3
her shimcheong
my dear lass
chun and alice
the princes of sylph ヾ(☆▽☆)
I’ve been trying to find some good yuri that isn’t obviously made for men. (ex: unrealistically huge boobs, overly sexual depictions of women, no plot)
Anything with a really good plot and cute wlw