i got triggered too , many abusive partners behave this way , to establish control even and especially when there's a distance,
there can be no reason as to why he denies ilhoo's bid of connection,
but is angry over the mere fact that he's going for drinks with friends
and I am more angry over the fact that , author nim will try to paint this as an immaturity or differences in communication styles
when it's very clearly , abuse , when a person withholds affection and connection whenever things don't go their way
and the other keeps thinking, what mistake did they make
it's clearly becomes emotional abuse,
I really don't like this ,
THISSS and when the moment you start overthinking and hesitating every time u r about to do something fun without ur partner, it'll LAST especially when u automatically think ur partner is going to act cold and distant after
There are so many ways to communicate ur loneliness to ur partner OR maybe it's a sign to take a break until both parties have the mental capacity for each other again
I really hope the author take this opportunity to show that their miscommunication is a serious issue that could negatively impact the way they see relationships, instead of fixing it with sex
It is not abuse until there is a clear intent of hurting or at least being aware it hurt your partner and keeping up with it. It CAN become abuse, but first there's gotta be communication so both are aware of what's happening and then we gotta see how they act according to that.
Holy fcking shit he reminds me of my ex, but we weren't even doing long distance