So how did he have an example of healthy relationships growing up? Nobody has a text book perfect relationship... for the first time he knew real affection without a drawback...how do you think that lost was going to impact him? His parents didn't love him want him...his new family cut his tendons and his real mom told him never to speak.....all bc he was born from and with the royal magic.... do I agree with it no, but do I see where he lost all hope and went to the deep end, and he went bonkers...I can understand it. Emotions are powerful @momo
That's true and I'm not denying it, nor was that the point. The point wad simply and objectively their relationship didn't exactly seem healthy. And regardless of how he got where he did that doesn't mean it's ok. To compare to an extreme I had an abusive stepfather who was very mentally abusive and would throw things at my mother. He was raised not able to handle his emotions and with a pretty negletive family so he didn't have a good reference. He saw the perfect nuclear family on TV and that was the best he had. None of that matters, he wasn't ready for such a relationship or to have a family and he hurt people. I understand fucked up backgrounds but responding with that makes it sound A LITTLE ok and that can lead to larger acceptance of abuse or toxicity due to trauma. What I will say is that Cesio and Terryl have the opportunity to grow and I don't necessarily think their situation is dire so they have great potential to form a much healthier relationship. Though they might need to slow down. The point of this is I want to make sure we are also acknowledging the bad sides of their relationship as I am starting to see a lot of blind love for them
So like, their relationship doesn't seem to healthy, but I feel like he also wasn't in a good place to start with. Usually absolutely loosing yourself when your partner dies is a bad sign in a relationship cus of the degree of attachment. That doesn't mean becoming depressed or grieving or feeling like you lost a part of yourself are bad or abnormal. It's just to the degree which he acted. As well as the lack of communication. Also being literally obsessed with your partner is NOT a good thing.