Just because it's her first time doesn't mean she didn't do anything wrong. Yes, it's one of the reason as to why she acted this way because she clearly doesn't know what she's doing but she also disrespected his boundaries that he clearly set.
His inferiority complex doesn't come from nowhere when his brother INTENTIONALLY hurt him and he suffered from the favouritism his parents showed towards his brother. So while I also wish for them to reconcile it's obviously going to take some time and even if she had good intentions, how would you feel if someone pushed their feelings onto you while completely disregarding yours ?
I agree that this is her first relationship and it should be taken in consideration however do not take away her accountability just because of that. She did him dirty and his feelings are valid because she clearly knew that he didn't want her near him and she STILL meddled in his relationship with his brother when she had no right to do so.
I AGREEEE you worded that so well
Honestly, she tried a lot and he didn't do the minimum, since the begining it was always her showing her flaws and her lots of sides, it was her who tried everything to make it right, but him on the other way never tried to show more sides of him, they're on a relationship where one side give and take more than the other, how can she know his problems if he didn't verbalize, is better to break up
Exactly, he wasn't trying to open up and honestly it seemed like he never would. If she's wrong then he's wrong too. I honestly think they should break up too. If not, look how it'll take her meddling for him to finally open up.
Well he needs therapy for that inferiority complex. Yeah he was being compared but it wasn't after giving his sibling the cold shoulder for something that wasn't even his fault that he did what he did. They were kids and before you knew it adults with unresolved trauma. I hope they break up, they're not good together until he opens up with her somethings she's been doing the entire time.
I know this thread is a month old but u r terribly misinformed about trauma that i just had to say something. You commented about ML having to “open up,” but in some cases its advised to literally NOT talk about trauma, especially not without the right resources/safe space. You are not obligated to disclose ur trauma to anyone. There are definitely so many other ways to work thru ur traumas without having to explicitly talk about them. For instance, if ML’s past with his brother causes him to mistrust his partner, ML+FL can practice ways to build trust without ever having to confront the source of his trauma. That said, you are entitled to ur opinion on their relationship, i just wanted to clear things up about trauma recovery.
No Fr and he’s still going through the active trauma with his brother by his brother saying those mean things and messing with his gf!!!
First off, this is literally her FIRST RELATIONSHIP so ofc she's going to do alot of things wrong, like duh??? Second, that man has got one of the biggest inferiority complexes I've ever seen like wow. I hope they break up so she can move on and meet someone else. Idk maybe get some more dating experience. I honestly believe she did nothing wrong. It's her first relationship and boyfriend and was just trying to help cause she knew there's more to the story. Just my opinion.