That is abusive you know?
……this is abuse, tell a trusted adult about this
Your mother acting that way is not normal, I don't know how old you are, but you should try to talk to a teacher or something, because that is not ok. I hope things get better for you
All this for trying to go out in ur nightgown? How old are you? Any job prospects? Wat country? Can you move out? I hope not all adults are like her and you have a safe haven. I used to wear my pj's to class back in university, even now married wit kids I sometimes wear it to the stores and I see other grownup in them too.
eyy thats messed up , what is your mom's problem?
teacher is not okay ,cause im from an abusive family and once in high school i told one of my teacher they just talked it out with my parents and then guess what the tormenting seems to get worse
you are married and with kids ? amazing
Then talking to a counselor might be better? I'd recommend avoiding to spend too much time at home, normally that helps
if a minor encounters this kind of situation does they know counselor , o mean in my teens i know how to just surrender in fear
I'm 15, so moving out isn't an option for me. I have other family members around me, but honestly? Their the reason my mom is the way she is so I don't want to go with them. I'm not enrolled into school yet but I'll be going around next week, but I don't think I'm going to tell anyone.
I'm trying to get a job at the moment, but that's not going that well due to the fact I don't have a way to get there and back. I don't have any good adults around me. And even if I could move out, I wouldn't. I have my siblings here. I can't leave them.
Thank you for the concern though, she isn't always like this. I do love her still, and I'm not sure what I would do without my mom.
Chibi, thanks for the concern. But in my community, telling the councilor is just a way for them to tell your parents everything you said to them, and or get taken away from your family. I can't have that at all!
Yeah at that age, ur options are definitely limited. Wat I will say is get someone you can vent to if possible because sometimes all we need is to get things off our chest to feel better. Get a hobby that u can turn to wen u need joy and try to get away when she's like that instead of talking back at her cause talking back will make it worse (trust me as an African I know). And if you need to vent I'm always available. Just send message privately and just write and get everything off your chest, I'm a stranger worlds away from you so I don't know anything about you to use to hurt you. Peace and love to you always dear
that is sometimes they called as friends but parents labeled them as same as "me"
I see, you really are in a difficult posicion, all I can recommend then is to do what I did when I was your age and my family and house felt toxic sometimes, put headphones on or distract your mind with something you like, like reading, listening to music, drawing, watching something, focus on that and think about that. Create your own world or characters, create a version of yourself that doesn't have any troubles and has all they could imagine that would make them happy. Create plans for yourself and for the future.
I used to look at the sky, listen to music and imagine my favorite stories from mangas, animes or series and create my own character and insert myself in those stories and think how it would change the story. This distracted my mind enough not to think too much about the difficult things. Always telling myself it gets better. And believe me it does get better, not sure if your mom will ever stop those kind of behaviours, but you will grow up and your life will go on, and you will become independent and what your mom says and how she behaves will have less importance. You are you, she is she, she will only change if she wants to, so don't exaust yourself trying to change what can't be changed and focus on how to be ok, what to do to make you happy. First you have to take care of yourself to be able to care for your siblings. Hope every goes well for you!
Hi, I just want to say you're very kind!!! My mom is African American so I know not to talk back and things like that, but I'm glad that you're even giving someone like me any advice.
As much as I would love to vent, I have absolutely no idea how to send messages on this site or whatever. But just the fact you would allow me to makes me very happy, I'm very happy that a stranger worlds away from me is being so kind to me
Hi, I just want to say you're so very kind and you're advice is appreciated!!! I read Manhwa and listen to music to clog my brain to ignore her but I can't always do that because of my siblings and other reasons!!
She isn't always like this, but I still find it hard to be happy around her, but just the fact a stranger is kind enough to give me any type of advice makes me feel better. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to reply and be so kind for no reason!!!
You're very welcome, I wish only good things!
Off topic y'all, My mom just went off on me for trying to step outside with a nightgown and bonnet on. And not even how she usually does, like she called me all types of things. As per usual, I tried to ignore it and sleep it off.
She told me to get out my room and go on the living room, but don't lay on the couch, lay on the floor. But before I could do that, I had to clean the bathroom. She also said I wasn't getting dinner tonight. Then when I tried to lay down (on the hard ass floor), she told me don't touch none of her blankets. And after that, because she still wasn't done. She told me to take off my socks and nightgown. She has the air on fucking 65 in here.
This is definitely going in my crazy lore