Hii I completely agree with what you say bc I am all for healthy relationships too!
but for those people it’s usually because deep down they are long wired to believe that they don’t deserve better, and they don’t even believe there is something better just for them. When you have been in an abusive space for a long time, you don’t know how to be mentally healthy yourself too. When you have been with an abusive partner for a long time, or an abusive parent- you tend to link abuse as love. So unless they rewire their brain- eg. Therapy, their brain will feel uncomfortable and unsafe in a healthy relationship until they seek out the same pattern again ┗( T﹏T )┛
Thanks for the input. Well said. It's really painfuuul to watch. Im so amazed and proud to those who are able get out of it and break the cycle of abuse. Unfortunately, thre's also those who perpetuate the abuse. But there're a lot of factors how both arrive to such. Ugh
Personally, I dont get why some people choose to stay in a relationship that only cause them harm if they have every means to get out. Then there're who defend their abuser and say things like "he's actually a good person deep inside" like??huh?? Anybody care to enlighten me? Explain it to me like Im five