Sorry, meant to downvote. What a load of victim-blaming crap
Why is it victim blaming
You are literally blaming the victim. It's not even ambiguous. To be clear, 'bottom' is the victim. Saying they can use their words is QUITE LITERALLY shuffling blame from the ml onto them. At no point was it the mc's responsibility to tell the ml that he didn't understand the ml's intentions. It was the responsibility of the ml, and the ml alone, to make his intentions clear. If someone hits me, it's not my fault because I should have told them that I don't like to be hit. And lastly, what is WRONG with you that you don't already understand this?!?
It's so funny how they always use the smallest misunderstanding to cause the conflict. Like, wh