Polyamorous people exist.
Yeah what this person said because I am one. Even if I’m not on a poly relationship I’m happy with my boyfriend. Maybe In the future I might add a girl in but who knows really. It all just depends what you and your partner wants and if you’re both comfortable doing those things together.
you can love more than one friend, right? you can love all of your family members? it's not like you're limited to only loving one person in other aspects, so i don't get people's confusion with polygamy/polyamory.
the hardest part of polyamory isn't even the loving more than one person. it's the jealousy that comes with seeing the person you love love another person that isn't you, but that can be solved with clear communication and boundaries, and it helps a lot when everyone loves each other, too. that didn't really happen in this, but that's the only way i can do polyamory.
Yes ofc seeing the person you love love other people must be one of the most difficult aspects of this.
What I don't get is not about loving more than one person, as you said all of us do this in our different relationships.
What I don't get is "equally". How can you share your heart 50/50 for example? There's no definite metric so in that case the person maybe hunted by guil etc.
Do you love one parent more than another? One friend more than others? Grandparents? Siblings? As long as you're not haunted by guilt about loving one of them more than another, you can get sharing your love in a relationship, too, because it's the same. I've only been in one poly relationship, and it wasn't very long-lasting (not their fault; I was going through some things at the time), but stressing over which one I loved more was never a concern because I was into them equally. If I wasn't, I wouldn't have dated them. If they had issues with it, they never mentioned it to me.
In my current relationship, we've both talked about jealousy and how open we want our relationship to be. They enjoy going to BDSM clubs and getting their ass beat, and so we had to talk about whether that constituted as cheating. We also talked about what it would take to introduce a third to our relationship and decided together it wouldn't happen unless both of us were interested in the third and the third was interested in both of us. It takes communication on a level a loooooot of people just aren't comfortable with, but I'm a super open person, and so is my current partner, so it works for us.
Good for you
Hmm
Handsome men? Great. Four of them? Greater! Older and younger? Fewh h-hot. Romantic relationship? Hmmm to love four? I don't think I'll ever understand these kinds of relationships, how can sb love people equally? Pretty difficult almost impossible. I get the sex but not the heart ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶