I'm living in a country that's filled with Asami type of men. Not all of them are as rich or attractive as Asami, but still same arrogance and personality type. Let me assure you, it gets boring after a while, especially when your jealous lover suddenly becomes your social media manager, stylist and bodyguard at the same time.
Yup, that's why I try to choose wisely when it comes to boyfriends. There are even some Asamis in my family, I haven't seen my cousin without a suit ever since he was 16. When we go out together they think he's my bodyguard. #-.-)
I make similar mistakes too. Generally I prefer kind of guys, who have common interests with me. In the end I realize I like them better as friends. Maybe I should go for an Asami type next, since we have so many of them in my country. Σ(  ̄□ ̄||)
Personally I do fall for really kind guys as well, but only the really tall, smart, cute face, gutsy, and physically fit ones, makes the chemistry work great (who'd want to let that go into another woman's arms D:) for me while also having all the benefits of not living with a jerk ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
Really specific but I've dated two, the first one didn't work because he was gay ROFL.
The problem is that fictional Asami types make you wet by looking at you and give multiple orgasms with every touch, whereas real life Asami types have never taken time to learn about foreplay or what to do with a clitoris (if they even where to look for one). Find you a sensitive artist or musician with wicked fingers--someone who takes pride in singing the body electric. Oh, and that friend thing is nice too; I mean, if you are going for the long term.
Boring is relative. I think the real issue is that people should not settle for someone they are not genuinely attracted to or really into just because that person is nice. It's cool to have friends you don't want to have sex with. But if someone is sexy and a friend, bonus! And what is ideal for me is a sense that we are in it together--call it friendship or partnership or loyalty. It's nice to have a lover who is on your side.
But also don't settle to spend a time with a friend you're not really attracted to (because yes, there's also a level of attraction playing in friendships) just because they're nice. Spend time with people you also find fun.
That's pure common sense.
Lover etc. is the same, just with physical attraction thrown in the mix.
Going out with a jerk is the same as making a bunch of jerky friends. Usually people regret it unless they're the same as them.
...or Iason!
So while people are arguing about what flaws the main characters have, or if their relationship is based on a sick twisted fantasy or mental instability...I'm drooling over Hot AF King Asami finally making a return!!! And it's not an extra!!! Lol...Remember people this is Yaoi, not based heavily, if at all, on real life...But I have to say finding myself an Asami with the same baggage an dangerous lifestyle...I'd still spread them for him w/o second thoughts and become a ride or die bitch. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭ Lol...Seriously Aki, get some training so that you can become an asset not a liability.