Well people all on all sides cry about it. TJ fans and Ian fans. Another comment made me realize that Jason played a huge part in keeping TJ and Ian apart. He got Ian to do the motorbike competition thing specifically so he’d do something different away from TJ. Kept telling TJ to get with a woman and build something. He wanted to bring TJ on his sideway gang hoping he’d leave Ian behind the gang they were both brought into. I think part of TJ was repressing the fact that Ian was a viable dating option because he didn’t want to lose him and also because of how the whole thing would look like in the gang world. Even in his hospital bed, Jason was still on that speech. Ian and TJ Both shied away from their feelings as they slept with other people.
From the raw it seems TJ is the one who is responsible for them not having a full relationship but just "friends with benefits" so stop crying that Ian is sleeping with another men because TJ is doing the same