Tbh, even as a woman I think she did him dirty there
She said no once and his ego couldn’t take it lmaooo spouse or not you have the right to refuse sex And if you thought your spouse was uncomfortable, wouldn’t you do something to ease that wouldn’t you try to be intimate and the way that she was comfortable with and build up to the intimacy your searching for? Instead of being like, fuck you You rejected me It’s just petty She said no to me. It hurt my feelings. I’m no longer gonna try and I’m just gonna fuck somebody else.
Well, I'm a woman too, but seriously, that was kind of cruel of her. he is a monarch, not a priest. If I were in his place, I would have found another woman a long time ago
All I’m saying is he bitched out and let his insecurities get the better of them and projected them onto his wife who he knew loved and cared about him, and she never judged him had been with him since he was a child had seen his true form has seen what he had gone through and still decided to marry him but he was so insecure because she was scared of intimacy. Everybody scared of the first time But he made it about him, saying she sees me as a beast when she saw you as an actual beast and still decided to love and marry you but getting rejected once was enough for you to throw all of that away to not try to do anything to not even talk or communicate just live inside your fucking head and believe me I know that insecurities are like true hardship that people go through, but you think it’s a person who has gave him a sense of security since he was a child would be able to overcome that was simple communication or reassurance that he loves her but he didn’t even say like hey it kind of hurt my feelings that you pushed me away because you don’t like me because you perceive me a certain way but no he just internalized projected and then ran away and didn’t have any letters or communication then came back a cheater
well, it's not like I'm trying to justify him here. he's a moron and nothing will change that. I'm just saying that all of Fl shock was unwarranted... And that "since he found a lover, they are no longer husband and wife..." as if they were.
Besides, "in those days" it didn't work like it does today... then the wedding night was a necessity, and the fact that he didn't take her by force, but respected her opinion, was really cool of him.
And in my opinion, she should let him know when she's ready... it's normal that after her reaction he lost his self-confidence... The guy gave her time and space and she swept it under the rug and acted as if the situation didn't never hepend. she took advantage of his lack of self-confidence and hurt pride to stay in her own comfort zone.
And let me tell IT again, I really hate him. He is a total dick. But he isn't a monster or something like that. I kind of understand him.
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I mean if someone says that they’ll always love you and it will be only you and they don’t care about a soulmate then the most vulnerable moment of your 1st experience with intimacy you get scared and they take it personally and then do a 180 become cold and leave then they go back on everything they say cut communication and bring back a mistress is shocking like nothing is unwarranted besides his reaction if my partner is have trouble or fears in our relationship and I truly treasure them I’m going to work through it with them I going to figure of why and what I can do I’m going to communicate and persevere bc I love that person a genuinely care I’m no going to push them away but forward we can work together toward our future and respective goals intimacy isn’t just sex you have to fuel your partner more than just physically and compromise so it’s comfortable and pleasurable for both parties start of with a conversation and build up with small touches filled with affection and affirmation and as the party wanting/pressuring for sex you have to take responsibility and initiative the “burden” isn’t hers and space isn’t pushing away and freezing out someone it’s giving them the opportunity to become familiar with you and come to a conclusion comfortably not bc you’ve punished them with the need for a answer or forced decision you’re partner should be a open and safe space he was mean pushed her away resented her and left where is she supposed to become comfortable with a man she can’t even come close to while running his country
And he didn’t not respect her at all he became upset a threw a fit and projected his insecurities on her and made it about him he became standoffish and cold bc he didn’t get sex and withheld love and affection then shunned and left her not forcing her is bare minimum and not respect you don’t get applause for decency and humanity he resents her for not having sex that isn’t respectable and in that time period isn’t relevant bc it’s literally says they were excluded from the nobility and only had each other not to mention there are many outliers we even see married royals who have actually been treated with dignity and respect we’ve even had virgin kings and queens
And understand your saying empathy doesn’t excuse actions I get you hate him but you’re have more compassion for a cold and fickle man who’s a cheater his insecurities and lack of confidence drove a wedge between there relationship and he did nothing to fix it or try to work on himself let alone their relationship regardless relationship are built on trust and respect but require communication to build you don’t kiss and say I love you on the 1st day you get together you come to the right place and decide the best time for both parties
I maybe a bit hasty as I didn't read your full comment just first 1 or 2 line pardon me for over assuming (here I'm thinking you are finding his action unreasonable)
So my reply, All that mistresses bullshit and his dick ass behaviour apart, but its been 5 year and the man didn't get to pound someone, I mean if she didn't want physical intimacy they could've communicate and all that stuff but she literally had him hanging so ofcourse if a currvy woman were to show up and on top of that with all that imprint and stuff he would be drioling like a dog in heat, I mean the mistress is actually kinda hot tbh
And ofcourse, for the sake of "new" plot we would have a married for 5 year virgin fl LOL. To bring "justice" to ml. I mean the emperor is literally canon fodder here
Like the man who cheated 1st is getting upset and jealous bc he sees her a object that he owns and she belongs to him but doesn’t even talk to her believes rumors and the mistress over her thinks she’s being unfaithful so physically and verbally attacked her and then blaming it on sex and her do we not recall he literally says when he’s about to have sex with the mistress that he would treat her better if she was submissive and gave him sex that he likes that the mistress bc coddle him and makes herself small for him he’s upset that he can’t have sex and use her as a tool to fuel his confidence and boost his ego he’s upset that he’s still the scared child he was and she’s grown strong and independent
No no no I'm not not talking about ALL THAT STUFF but I was talking about how she did him dirty by not allowing him near her jn their 5 years of marriage
He is and will be a dick, that's forsure stamped and sealed
He left he wasn’t even around for her to have intimate contact tf is she supposed to do when he went away and doesn’t answer her letters find him on his pilgrimage and fuck him to make him feel better men go to war and travel for work all the time and don’t fuck the 1st hot bitch who throws themselves at them that just shows how weak he is and how little he thought of there relationship and especially lack of respect towards his partner and he’s a virgin it not like he’ll die without something he’s never had they’ve been together since childhood he got blueballed once and gave up that shows the depth of his determination and sincerity
Where do you get this she never let him near her they didn’t consummate their marriage that’s the first night after the wedding then he got cold and felt rejected and didn’t try then went away for years then came back with another woman
And how do you know this? It hasn't been mentioned yet... Only his shocked expression and anger after 5 years were shown... And let me said that, from her point of view everything was fine and that's why she was shocked.
We know bc they didn’t consummate their marriage, which means they didn’t have sex the first night after The wedding That’s what consummating the marriage means. And in the very beginning, she talks about how he’s become indifferent and gone cold and then goes Away on the expedition and she hasn’t seen or talked with him the whole time and the shock is he’s so different from when they were kids to from when they got married and he broke all their promises and brought a woman home when he specifically told her and promised her it would only ever be her that he wouldn’t let a named woman come between them because he chooses her
well, I won't say I don't understand you when I fully understand your point of view. What I'm trying to say is that you can't blame the emperor for everything.
He's a motherfucker, Titi is a female dog, but FL is a clumsy twat, a boring, poorly written copy of Navier from the remarried empress. the only decent character here is Raxanne and he's the only one I like here.
FL lets himself get into some bitch's head and blames the entire failed marriage on the fact that her husband found a mistress. They are both to blame for the situation.
The truth is that the author leads us to believe that FL is beautiful and generally so poor and pure, and the emperor is only evil and nothing more. And the truth is, they are only people with different needs and responsibilities (e.g. fathering a child). they were both in a toxic relationship, they couldn't get along and it's good that they broke up before they had children.
Yaas queen, Periodt!
Flash news, breaking up exists. Lol why get a mistress? You aren't living in a polygamous society. Don't be trash
rejected, but the standards prevailing at that time must be taken into account. If you're going to pick on his behavior, spit in the face of everyone in this work for wearing corsets and about how unhealthy they are.
Seriously, if my wife had been refusing me sex for five years(the whole period od thier marriadge), I would also find a lover for myself.
He may be a jerk, but seriously she has no right to blame him for that. After all, he's a guy who has his own needs and responsibilities.
Ps. Titi is a female dog. Also her name is also lime for one