i don't agree w/ you entirely but ialso don't really like omegaverse bc it really gives an excuse like you said to make omegas super small and dainty with no will-power at all. it's okay to have a masculine top and a feminine bottom but i feel like in omegaverses you often see a really big, almost stereotypical depiction of that. as you said it really can feed into heteronormative tendencies.
that's what i don't really agree w the smell pheromones thing, but i don't mind feminine gay men but i think in a lot of bl's they tend to make the feminine men look especially small and weaker. or even somewhat childlike. i feel that is more of what this person is trying to get at. they tack on the same plotline and personality traits to a lot of the feminine men in bls which to me gets old
am i the only one who hates omegaverse on gay/queer stories?(tho some are good)It just seems so homonormative it feels like im reading a straight story, its so cringy where the top is an alpha which is masculine while the bottom is an omega and feminine and don't get me started with the pheromones thing where the aplha is attracted to an omega's scent it feels so heteronormative where man can only love a woman. Pls am i the only one cause im really tired of this type of story they just keeps spawning