BL nowadays is very poorly written in my standards

I initially enjoyed reading BL because its free of the gender standards in shoujo. There wasn’t that unfair power dynamic. But all the BL I see on here nowadays you can tell at a glance who the top is and who the bottom is and they act exactly like their position (seme acts masculine and ukr acts feminine). Im starting to get back into shoujo because I love genuine romance where both people can be themselves and have a personality like with haruhi and tamaki or nozaki and chiyo. Regardless I still love BL and would love if someone could recommend me BL with either no positions (no determined top or bottom) or a BL with fleshed out characters who’s positions are not obvious. I moved to shounen ai because of this absolute top nonsense I kept seeing but its even in shounen ai now