alternatively finding a great one you like and looking though lists that they are in is a good way to find what you are looking for as well. I recommend yaois like:
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/death_delayed_for_a_short_time_because_of_the_will/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/saiyaku_wa_boku_o_suki_sugiru/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/meteor_orbit/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/monochrome_rumor/
stuff like these i think is what you enjoy more, where the romantic aspect is often secondary to the main plotline.
oh almost forgot lol:
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/turning/
This isn't true actually lol
They don't use terms like "yaoi" and "shounen-ai" to determine whether or something has sex in it. This is entirely made up by western fans. Everything is coined as "bl" whether it has sex or not. The only distinctions they have for it is another genre called geicomi which used to be referred as "bara."
mmm im not sure abt thiss maybe its becuase i hate bls abt sex but this is a bit odd haha