Me too ! I get the feeling that the story turns BDSM into something “evil and violent” when Sejin asks him several times if he agrees, if he likes it. He asks him to express himself and continues to make him believe that he likes it.
I can understand why Sejin feels betrayed when he learns that all this time his partner didn't like it and never made it clear (and I bet he'll be made out to be the bad guy...). （/TДT)/
Ur opinion is ur opinion but just hear me out.
Sejin is a piece of manipulative shit tho and Jiwoon does lacks communication and boundry setting but Sejin basically exploits that on purpose, never being like "oh if you're uncomfortable then I'll stop" without giving a safe word which he should've been considerate enough to at least research about in bdsm. To me, this does makes Sejin the bad guy since he never gave the ml who is obviously a huge pushover the option to opt out. Something abusers do which sejin literally does, says "you're the one who wanted this" which is the equivalent of "you're the reason I hit you, everything that is happening is ur fault" which is guilt tripping and manipulation. Yaoi in general has a awful fucking portrayal of sex and consent
Even when sejin does say "tell me if U don't like this?" And Jiwoon literally right after tries to say that it hurts, he's met with sejins judgement.
Why is Sejin seen as a horrible person in this story?
Not only did Sejin stop to check on Jiwoon and tell him "if you don't like this please speak up about it ANYTIME" Jiwoon still proceeds to go through with it even though he didn't like it.
I'm not saying Sejin is a sweetheart but by the sound of what Sejin said Giyeon did, Giyeon was just victimizing himself and not speaking up too.
As for the gray haired dude, I don't like him. Not only did he assault Sejin for nothing but he took Giyeon side! Sejin said he stopped immediately when he saw Giyeon cried and didn't continue and apologize on his on accord! Giyeon should've spoken up about it in the beginning and not try to take it like a champ cause he think Sejin is hot. (Based off the backstory)
Jiwoon pisses me off due to this. Sejin gave him may stops and even asked for consent and gave him time to consent to all of this yet Jiwoon still did it and acted like Sejin wasn't treating him right.
I honesty sympathize with Sejin due to this. I've had met people just like Jiwoon and they would bash their partner's sexual taste yet consent to it knowing they don't like it!