There kinda is tho. After a meeting when he forced himself on Hestia without preparing her at all and she screamed at him to stop, saying it was so incredibly painful she felt like she was being torn apart. That ruined him for me. So selfish and fucked up. Relationship or not, that’s rape. Romanticized, but rape regardless. Whole novel is just male gaze purity culture, where Hestia is acting like sex isn’t mutual but she’s serving him and sacrificing herself for it. She doesn’t talk like it’s a mutually enjoyable thing. Personally, I don’t tolerate romanticized SA or unclear consent, as well as making women seem like they can’t enjoy sex. They always gotta be shy and refuse it but secretly “enjoy it”. Purity culture at its peak. Bad smut writing, disappointing that a woman wrote smth like that. It’s so male gaze.
Hestia kinda was. It’s a romanticized rape. Whole novel is very purity culture male gaze kind of sex. Personally, I don’t tolerate that kind of thing, but a lot of people seem into it. But at one point he just started to duck her without preparation whatsoever and she screamed at him to stop saying that she feels like she’s being torn apart, that’s how painful it was. He apologized but didn’t stop it. It’s rape no matter how u wanna disguise it. People just really romanticize non-consensual stuff. And this kind of novels make FL always seem like they can only “enjoy” it in secret but never clearly consent to it. As I said, purity male gaze culture. Very disappointing and super out of character for Kael. If u like it go for it, personally I hate it. For more details on what happened etc u can read my other response.
I think it’s just bad writing. It’s incredibly out of character for him to care so much about her and then do smth so cruel cause he feels like it. If you ever read Yaoi (it’s mostly written by straight women) or other mature webtoons you would notice a pattern of how much authors and readers romanticize and fetishize r*pe and non-con in general. I understand it if someone has trauma and it helps them cope, but in general I just find it gross and disappointing. Had to drop a lot of my favorite works cause they suddenly put in stuff like that
Also, I can’t just brush off the whole “forcing himself just like that” thing because I know how genuinely painful sex can be for women, ESPECIALLY with no prep whatsoever. Just no, absolutely disgusting. Can’t read that. In all honesty, majority of novel authors just can’t write smut. Sorry not sorry.
I do not know how painful it is without prep ngl but I ain't ever do it without it. But you speaking facts tho ngl. Like that sounds that there was no hint of love just obsession from his side maybe and sex addict w Hestia?? But yeah I agree w u and idk if I should continue reading but there r only 20% left but still.
A lot do actually. Rape is incredibly normalized and a lot of victims don’t even realize it. Like there’s so many studies… For example in UK study showed that 50% of women are raped in their sleep by their partners. But yeah, I agree. The only reason I like BJ Alex is side couple, one of the very few healthy and consensual representations of BDSM. BJ Alex main couple had some good angst and didn’t show SA as good but def didn’t have the right consequences either
I also have the same. It’s so gross. I stopped reading BL and overall mature works (I’m trying to find good GL now) due to that. Had to drop so many cause they suddenly turned rapey. I can’t tolerate it, never. Sad thing is, the most abusive BL’s are the most popular ones. That’s why I would probably choose anything and anyone over Yaoi fans. I hate them with passion.
Idk either, I’m a virgin but I’m also so sensitive even an ear cleaning stick is painful to me. I heard from many of my friends tho, that loosing virginity can feel like you’re being torn apart and for many sex even with prep can be painful. So without… I think u could only do it if you’re genuinely into rough stuff. And that’s the thing, I don’t think he’s obsessed with her, I do genuinely think he loves her it’s just such a bad writing. The sex scenes are just very out of character for him, which is just I think authors weird fantasies and lack of smut writing skills. It’s inconsistent. If they keep sex scenes like they did this one or don’t even show the other one then I might pick it up, but honestly knowing that novel is kinda the canon one… idk it might’ve ruined it for me completely. I’m not sure if I can go back to it.
Okay, I’m glad they kept the explicit scenes to the minimum, let’s see about another one cause in the novel that was what incredibly repulsed me from this work. I hope they don’t show it, then I might actually be able to pick this up again. S*x scenes in the novel were just terrible. I couldn’t read it if they kept it that way. I’m so tired of purity culture and normalized SA.