
When they simp over rapist characters like semes from painter of the night, jinx, roses and champagne and overlook the sexual assault, physical and mental abuse the ukes went through. Another thing is when they drool over specifically JUST bl characters. I've never seen any straight girl make a acceptable reason for only liking bl characters. It's always like "straight romance is so boring", "there are no good plots in straight manhwa" like no u just haven't read enough manhwa, you've read like 5 sl manhwas and 100 of bls and u can't handle reading about a girl, you'd much rather watch 2 men on each other than a girl. Another very specific thing I consider fetishism is when ppl totally disregard the whole plot of killing stalking and consider it a bl. Tf u mean "boys love" when there's no love. There's a reason why it's not tagged as a yaoi or a shounen ai. It's a psychological story about characters with mental illness. The person the seme in it wants is his mom, not the uke also when women drool over their dicks and shit....ew especially I've seen a lot of women on tiktok ranking dicks and shit of bl semes and using weird filters that give u a random dick....ugh

personally, it's when ALL they read is bl with smutty scenes-- like, you can read a lot of bl, but it becomes questionable if there are no other genres sprinkled in there. If you're regularly and exclusively consuming gay pornographic media to the point that you're watching a show and immediately find two guys to ship to no end, or you ship real people and sexualize male friendships/bromance, or your ships are predominantly guys, and you watch shows only because there's even a hint of a mlm relationship in it you can say it's fetishistic! also the yaoi brain rot, enough... read a book...
A few days ago I saw a comment section abt women fetishing gay men etc etc, I js wanna know what are yalls boundaries when it comes to this like at what point do u figure someone is fetishising gay ppl?