https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_world_without_you/
they haven't known each other for a long time, but I think it fits the other criterias!
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/free_in_dreams/
If my memory serves me right, both of them are mutually obsessed with each other; I haven't read until the latest updates so I may be wrong!
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_promise/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/dreadful_night/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/cloud_1/
This manhwas isn't really the vibe you're looking for, but if you want to scratch that obsessive ml itch— I'd say these are pretty good.. imo tho lol
I wanna read something with mutually obsessive/mutually unrequited angsty doomed losers but somehow still with a happy ending.
It can be BL,GL or Straight.
I also like it when they have known each other for a long time .