Same. I love reading yaois but not live gay porn. Doesn't hold the same appeal, but maybe because BLs do target female readers.
Many people are interested in things they see in art that they aren't into seeing in live action. You don't need to worry about "fetishizing" anything just because you like a certain type of media. Fetishizing is when you allow your interests to affect the way you behave and treat other real life people poorly based on those interests. I.e., reading 10000 BL a year does not make you a fetishizer of gay men. Reading 10000 BL a year and treating gay men IRL as if they are BL characters, expecting them to act like BL characters, treating them poorly bc they're not BL characters, believing that all gay men have no pubes and can come from anal pleasure alone on demand or anything based on what you see in a BL, believing they exist for your viewing pleasure, etc? Yeah that might be fetishizing.
How come you explain it so clearly than those arguing people on the mgg forums
The art is amazing. Im a grown woman and i found it weird that i liked these haha so i got curious if that applies in reality and went searching for the "real" ones (you know) and i didnt like it one bit. i was grossed out (not in homophobic way) so am i safe? Is it safe to say i dont fetishize men like this? Or i probably just like pretty faces.
Cuz ive been confused for so long i didnt like seeing real men doing this, not my thing.