Ian clearly wants to be in an exclusive relation (ch 32). TJ said that Ian should know how he feels and if it makes sense for them to be apart “does it make sense for US to be apart”.
But Ian asked what does “us” even mean and TJ said they surpass lovers and family. TJ looked anxious in that panel while saying it. I think he means lovers as in their current sexual relationship (not the romantic).
The lack of an official/what defines their relationship LABEL has hurt their relationship. Ian definitely wants to be exclusive to TJ, at first anyways, but that feelings probably got tired but it’s still there, waiting for TJ. But TJ’s priorities are on being more powerful until he can really protect Ian. But that’s not what Ian wants most likely. And plus the gang world is homophobic so it probably hurts Ian more, knowing they might not publicly hold hands, etc. Of course, TJ too.
RATHER than family or lovers, Ian most likely wants to just be this official label: “Lovers” (not the lovers as in sexual only, but officially lovers). And Ian was in the gang where he didn’t even want to be in. He also watched TJ date women (iirc), waiting to be called by him for sex in secret due to the homophobic environment.
“How can we be over when we never started.” —Ouch.
Jason told TJ to be careful of his heart. TJ is able to endure this due to Jason’s words: First money, then power, then the girl (as in IAN for TJ). He wants to be the leader of the gang to protect Ian. But pretty sure that isn’t what Ian truly wants.
This is probably why TJ is okay with this situation for their relationship. He thinks they can only be together once he’s in power, even if it’d indirectly hurt Ian. It’s a sad situation.
I guess it would make sense for Jason to give that advice. It’s really dangerous being together with someone while you’re a low rank gang member who can’t protect your family. But I do question, what then if he becomes a leader? Will he continue being one despite Ian wanting to live a life outside of the gang? What will their relationship be? In my opinion, the more involved you are in the gang and living in an environment where gangs thrive, you can’t be secure.
Yes, TJ helped his addiction, but something leaves me unsatisfied. I wonder when they’d fully talk it out, obviously it won’t be a calm and casual discussion.
I do hope there is a trajectory in which TJ starts to see what Ian wants and not just what he thinks is gonna help. I also see why he’s doing this, it just doesn’t seem right imo. TJ ran back to him in that chapter out of regret and so did Ian, but then Jo is there with the perfect timing. It seems to me that TJ and Ian will always run back to each other, they are really codependent. Both say things they sometimes don’t mean to each other. They will hurt each others feelings, then run off, then run back. How long will this go on?
Hopefully there comes a moment where one or both decides to establish an official relationship. I assume it’ll be revealed by end of S3, the establishment of an official relationship and endgame reveal in mid of S3, then dealing with gang stuff in S4 for conclusion. Hopefully we get side stories too.
Ian clearly wants to be in an exclusive relation (ch 32). TJ said that Ian should know how he feels and if it makes sense for them to be apart “does it make sense for US to be apart”.
But Ian asked what does “us” even mean and TJ said they surpass lovers and family. TJ looked anxious in that panel while saying it. I think he means lovers as in their current sexual relationship (not the romantic).
The lack of an official/what defines their relationship LABEL has hurt their relationship. Ian definitely wants to be exclusive to TJ, at first anyways, but that feelings probably got tired but it’s still there, waiting for TJ. But TJ’s priorities are on being more powerful until he can really protect Ian. But that’s not what Ian wants most likely. And plus the gang world is homophobic so it probably hurts Ian more, knowing they might not publicly hold hands, etc. Of course, TJ too.
RATHER than family or lovers, Ian most likely wants to just be this official label: “Lovers” (not the lovers as in sexual only, but officially lovers). And Ian was in the gang where he didn’t even want to be in. He also watched TJ date women (iirc), waiting to be called by him for sex in secret due to the homophobic environment.
“How can we be over when we never started.”
—Ouch.
Jason told TJ to be careful of his heart. TJ is able to endure this due to Jason’s words: First money, then power, then the girl (as in IAN for TJ). He wants to be the leader of the gang to protect Ian. But pretty sure that isn’t what Ian truly wants.
This is probably why TJ is okay with this situation for their relationship. He thinks they can only be together once he’s in power, even if it’d indirectly hurt Ian. It’s a sad situation.
I guess it would make sense for Jason to give that advice. It’s really dangerous being together with someone while you’re a low rank gang member who can’t protect your family. But I do question, what then if he becomes a leader? Will he continue being one despite Ian wanting to live a life outside of the gang? What will their relationship be? In my opinion, the more involved you are in the gang and living in an environment where gangs thrive, you can’t be secure.
Yes, TJ helped his addiction, but something leaves me unsatisfied. I wonder when they’d fully talk it out, obviously it won’t be a calm and casual discussion.
I do hope there is a trajectory in which TJ starts to see what Ian wants and not just what he thinks is gonna help. I also see why he’s doing this, it just doesn’t seem right imo. TJ ran back to him in that chapter out of regret and so did Ian, but then Jo is there with the perfect timing. It seems to me that TJ and Ian will always run back to each other, they are really codependent. Both say things they sometimes don’t mean to each other. They will hurt each others feelings, then run off, then run back. How long will this go on?
Hopefully there comes a moment where one or both decides to establish an official relationship. I assume it’ll be revealed by end of S3, the establishment of an official relationship and endgame reveal in mid of S3, then dealing with gang stuff in S4 for conclusion.
Hopefully we get side stories too.