They were FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS, more like a SITUATIONSHIP, FUCK BUDDY kind of thing if you've read some parts where Uke seemed to like the dude at some point but didnt have the courage to pursue their relationship. They mostly met up to fuck too. Even he insinuated that when he confessed to him.Besides that the point.
They're both wrong in their ways & i agree on that. But what i don't justify is Uke's behavior of running away to his so called FRIEND which is technically his ex fuck buddy, who also has feelings for him and starts to spew those nonsense and he let that slide?? Felt tempted? He still slep over at his place? While Inwoo probably went back home & waited for him at home. Wtf!? Σ(っ°Д °;)っ
To EACH THEIR OWN but justifying him. Nah!
yeah that's what i said. they never dated. they were friends who fucked. that doesn't mean they can't be friends without the fucking? plenty of ppl are capable of taking the sex out of that kind of relationship and just be friends. obviously not the situation here, since the dude has feelings for him.
he didn't run away to his friend. his friend found him in a vulnerable moment and he ended up leaning on him because he needed a friend. i'm not justifying him??? i was just mentioning that i don't understand where ppl are getting that he thought about cheating on inwoo, because that's not what happened. but what inwoo did was also traumatic to him. being intimate with your partner in public shouldn't make you so afraid, but let's face it the world still isn't that open and kind, and jihoo still has a lot of fear, and for good reason he's somewhat of a minor celebrity. he could be recognized.
no he shouldn't have gone to his house. but he saw a friend and needed the comfort. we can argue back and forth about what if he did was right or wrong, but it's really all up to each person and relationship. i'll be upset if jihoo lies about where he was and who he was with, that i will find completely wrong and a lil unforgivable. Yes he felt tempted to break up with inwoo, because guess what relationships aren't easy lol the relationship that doesn't exist will always feel easier, because it isn't real lol have you never had a shitty first thought? like i get being upset at him, i didn't like it either, and maybe equating this to real life is dumb of me, but jfc life is messy and thinking something isn't a crime. we'll think of shitty things, doesn't mean we'll do it or that we're bad ppl for it. he did sleep over, and nothing happened?
yeah and inwoo didn't text him or call him. and jihoo didn't do it either. they're both idiots who don't communicate. i know it feels like i'm justifying jihoo or protecting him, but i'm really not. i'm not on his side. i don't think what he did was right. but he didn't cheat. he didn't think about cheating. and i was just confused about why ppl were going so hard on him.
jfc i'm so sorry for the huge reply, feel free to ignore it. idk why i can't just say less shit lol
Its alright. Your point is still valid. I'm not invalidating it. You're views of them jist being human is nice.
But a lot of people will not agree with the uke on this point. Because REALISTICALLY MAJORITY of us, we don't want our lovers RUNNING OFF TO THEIR FUCK FRIEND turn normal friends who still has feeling for him just because of one disagreement or arguement. Sure, if he comes clean to the Seme about it. I will cut him some slack. But his decisions & choices make me feel icky. Sure, seme frustrates me too yet seme seem more sincere.
Also after how the Uke's so called Fuck buddy of a friend treated the seme & even gave his unsolicited, unwarranted words & opinions to Inwoo previously in the cafe. I am definitely not buying him or the uke. They can't be NORMAL friends when one party keeps on trying to get in with him & he allows that behaviour. In addition to that uke should've left the moment his so called friend started spewing about his feelings & of them dating again.
i mean. if we're talking about me personally? if i was dating someone and they did that, yeah no. i would not be ok with that. but i would've communicated with them what i think is ok and not, and what would be considered cheating or not. and what makes me uncomfortable. which i don't think they've done so far. but then again it's a manga, and they won't go that in depth obviously lol
and yes!!!! jiwoo telling him about where he was and with who he was is what's more important to me and what will make me judge him completely. because if he lies, he knows that what he did was wrong or hurtful towards inwoo. if he's honest it was completely innocent. but again if it was in real life i would not be ok with any of it and would feel betrayed.
i'm gonna be honest my memory sucks ass and i don't remember very well about that? was jihoo there? if not he doesn't know about how the friend acted, if he was...yeah come on dude. be respectful of your partner at the very least. if your friend doesn't treat your partner well cut him off. and also very very true, if your friend didn't give up on being with youand is trying, you need to back off from him. find other friends. this isn't fair to your partner or yourself.
Yes... I totally agree with you on this. People keep saying they were both mad and we do irrational stuff when we're mad, cooling our heads is not easy blah blah.
But personally for me... Even if i was mad & upset. I would not go sleep over at my ex or fuck buddy's place. And even if i did go there in the heat of the moment. I would've come to my senses the moment he started confessing again & i would've left immediately. Thats why i felt furious and got annoyed at the uke because i set the standarts high for him which is my fault as a reader.
And yes, if i remeber it correctly, there was that time when the friend spewed some nonsense bullshit to inwoo which made him internally spiral a few chapters back. The uke wasnt there i guess. But from a readers pov, thinking about all that made me more furious at the uke when he stayed the night at that fuck buddy's place. （/TДT)/
yeah he could've gone to his sister's house and everything. instead of doing this. like if he had no other friends, family would be the first place i'd think to go. not do this.
like yeah that makes sense! it's not your "fault" lol if a story makes you feel thing, it means the writing is effective haha just because i'm taking myself out of equation doesn't mean i'm "right", just means we were looking at it from different angles.
ahhhh ok ok so he wasn't there. but obviously that made you feel more resentful of the friend, which makes perfect sense!
Ikrr!! Besides that it was nice talking to you. Usually comments become passive aggressive in mangago comments section. Yk how it is here. But i enjoyed having this conversation with you. It was nice ranting our feelings and perspectives on a story like this. Shows how we all have different kind of views & scepticism when it comes to life as well. (=・ω・=)
like literally what i was thinking lol i actually like talking things out and understanding why other ppl might be seeing things differently from how i'm seeing them. we won't always agree and that's fine! i also really enjoyed our conversation ^^ thank you so much for going along with me and being so kind and receptive to my view
he wasn't tempted to cheat? he was tempted to break up with inwoo and date the other dude instead because it would be easier. and i know that's a shitty thing to say and feel. but like lol we're human beings. we think and feel shitty things, as he said it was like an automatic thought. especially after having a fight with inwoo, he'll obviously feel like a relationship with someone else would be "easier".
inwoo has issues. jihoo has issues. they both need to solve their shit, and they both need to learn how to communicate. no one is perfect. not these characters and not y'all.
and i think y'all are skewing things by calling the other dude his ex. they were friends. yeah they fucked but they were mainly friends, they never dated. i'm not saying he did the right thing going to his house, especially when the other dude did confess to him lol but like if you need a shoulder to cry on and a friend comes along the way, you're probably not thinking about all the other bs and you take the comfort they offer.
he didn't cheat. he didn't even think about cheating. but everyone's interpretations are their own and i'm not gonna argue with that ig. and if this made you feel differently about jihoo that's fair too. but they're both flawed characters that have been fucking up constantly lol
idk why i keep rambling today jfc