try thinking of them as a friend that’s happy to see their friends get together after so much angst…kinda like a character that’s going through it with you
Imma try to do this
Being erotic and obsessive is a part of human nature. Women having hobbies that involve enjoying men being sexual and romantic with each other is so mundane compared to the sexual fantasies regular men entertain on the daily. You're upholding a convention that doesn't do you any good. Its also important to consider the japanese cultural landscape when we criticize them, lolicons, "massage parlors," the cheating epidemic and their sexual crime rates.
When people have something against fujoshis and the whole "moe" thing they get from boy's love it seems like they're just kind of upset that women can be cringey or that women are eager to project their sexual fantasies onto men (when the reverse is a-ok).
And, it's definitely reciprocal, men of all orientations experiencing "moe" when seeing women together and vice versa. Maybe its a deep seated (and sometimes sexually deviant) appreciation for what was (and sometimes still is) taboo. Think Romeo and Juliet, and humanity's appreciation for forbidden love.
Have I said too much? I still have more. But I hope you feel less uncomfortable with women who like gay stuff
I'm sorry I didn't reply to the shipping people in real life part, I think the reply you recieved from the other user sums it up...
The good news is I met a fujoshi in real life recently and didn't feel negatively toward her at all. I think what might actually be the problem here is that I'm asexual and I read BL as a way to view romantic relationships without being involved myself. But when fujo characters come into play, it's like I have to view someone who's kind of similar to me, and that bothers me because I'm trying to be as distant from the story as possible and I don't want to relate to anyone. Idk if that makes any sense to you at all. I also think I'm just uncomfortable with seeing women sexualize men, which is my own problem possibly rooted in trauma (being a man who was sexualized irl against my will) and something I need to work on. I still can't get over fujos who ship irl people though
That makes a lot of sense
I really want to stop hating fujos (namely the ones who ship people irl) just for existing but I can't help it. Fujo characters irk me to no end. Also what the girls did, switching his drink, was so messed up. They should've been reported.
But seriously if anyone has any tips on how to stop hating fujos (other than "just get over it" and "stop caring so much about what other people like") I need them. I have literally dropped manga because of fujo characters, it's almost pathological at this point. I'm going to keep encountering them because I read yaoi so I need to stop fr