Omg that sound so scary where you and your partner or person you did it properly prepared. If you guys just went at it with out any preparation, and this sounds weird for me to say, but if you guys did it without stretching you out first(pls don’t take this in a weird way I just wanna help) then your gonna bleed and rip. Best way to go is to use lots of lube and start small with fingers if it’s your first time
Babe, that's most likely from lack of foreplay. First time shouldn't be excruciating and super bloody. Some pain that dissipates and a little blood is one thing but it shouldn't be so bad it makes you scared. Discomfort the first few times is normal but you gotta make sure your partner is getting up in there and prepping you beforehand. Lube is also your friend. If you and your partner are both inexperienced it might help if you watch some real couple amateur porn to get some ideas.
The hymen shouldn't be breaking like that as it typically is worn down from every day activities and if it was too tight there needs to be more engaging foreplay. You should be loose and relaxed contrary to popular belief ie. tighter the better. Along with lube a water based one preferably. If it's a prevailing issue it could be vaginismus. Make sure to speak to each other a lot and sometimes being on top can help you control the speed of entry if you've got strong legs.
Foreplay is the best. You both need to take your sweet ass time with it and make sure you're both communicating with eachother. Not only do you need to learn one another's bodies but you also need to become acquainted with your own in this situation. Never be afraid to voice how you're feeling and if your partner doesn't listen to you it's time to stop then and there. Good luck! Also, protection, protection protection!!! If they "can't feel it/doesn't feel as good" try a different condom.
I thought first time or sex wasn’t much of a big deal until mine came, It hurts like hell bro I don’t even want to imagine, I bled so much when the hymn broke it hurt like omg, immediately stopped and for the second time as well I bled so much and it still hurt like hell how the hell people do this. I am too scared to do it now.