I don't understand why a loving family just suddenly started treating her so coldly for no...

Frrrr I hate seeing this in manwhas

There’s a very good reason for it, and it’s also much more complicated than them being cold to her, they all became estranged to each other after the mom got murdered, they are both traumatized and feeling guilty (more would spoil)
It might seem weird, but it’s pretty realistic, big trauma can damage the most beautiful ties and it’s hard to mend them
There’s really no bad guy in there, just victims
In a way the distance might also have build up to protect her before it became toxic on its own

I have a friend who had a loss in the family years before I met her and it’s exactly that. The entire family dynamic, both with the immediate and outer family, changed irrevocably and would never recover years, hell even DECADES later. My friend told me how her parents used to actually care and be around. But after the death happened, the parents just stopped caring and were never present, throwing themselves into work. The outer family became critical. Because of her parents’ sudden distance, she was parentified which strained her relations with her siblings, even ones born later who have no idea. And there’s no one to care for her.

It’s so sad and tragic what loss can do.

if you don’t understand, then you most likely never experienced first hand on how grief can affect someone. a death happening in a family can change the dynamics drastically. there are some instances where the parents would get a divorce bc of a death & siblings relationships can get strained all because they lost someone dear to them. is it right? no, but it’s what happens. fl didn’t deserve what she gotten from her family but they were so caught up in their own grief that they treated her as a needy child & didn’t check up on her when she was grieving as well. it’s sad it happened but it goes to show how grieving in a healthy way is very very important because not everyone take that into consideration.

You kinda triggered me with this line, "if you don’t understand, then you most likely never experienced first hand on how grief can affect someone." How dare you say that to ANYONE! You don't know me,. What I've been through. Or what I'm currently going through. I suggest you NEVER say those words to anyone else in the future unless you actually know them personally. Think BEFORE you speak! Words to live by - if you've never heard or seen them before.

Peace friend, I understand you might feel hurt by those words, if you believed they were referring to your personal experience. but i am sure that it was never intended this way : maybe that person just mentioned the loss of a child. Hopefully this is not part of your experience, be it as a parent or a siblings.

There’s definitely some craziness that is beyond what we want to accept in the loss of a child, maybe because we can’t comprehend it, or accept if as part of life, nature or whatsoever. It can happen in other circumstances, but it will always be there when a child die.
Grief is gigantic in many circumstances, and it actually doesn’t need to be compared.

In many case, i believe help can be much needed...

It’s definitely easy to be clumsy a keyboard. And yes all words stays, including yours ?

We also all have some unexpected triggers that maybe messages to ourselves pointing at place where we need to listen to our pain ?
As you mentioned, we don’t know you, but please take care of yourself. If you feel so reactive, could it also mean that you need some healing?
It’s so hard to make sense of some situations, even more when they are irreversible
i know help can be found in groups about grief, if you are alone or without reliable support, and there’s EDMR in case of trauma.
I hope you won’t be offended by my words.