The wife's top priority is her career and her long time dream position is going to come true. I can see why this is her top priority. Like right now my top priority is figuring stuff out about myself instead of looking for a relationship.
Your case is different because you know your priorities and not committed to anyone. But she's different. She's married. That's why she needed to balance both sides properly. The one who lost the most was her husband. A good soul suffered because of her for 7 years. That's not acceptable.
I kind of understand your point, but the husband knew from the beginning that she was a workaholic and still pushed through the marriage. He even says at some point that he wouldn’t mind doing chores but he wouldn’t be a househusband either. Anyways, feelings, relationships and life goals are not black or white or always clear. They change as you progress in life and what today is your number one priority, in two years time can be your last.
You are right. That's why he thought maybe if he helped her with house chorse and everything, she'd start to give him priority too. That's why he supported her 7 years. Marriage means partnership and supporting each other. He did his part and she didn't care.
I wouldn’t say she didn’t care but more so didn’t appreciate what he was giving her. Honestly it feels like he overestimated how much he could handle with very pro active woman like herself.
I do get what everyone is saying about partnership. She took it granted and assumed he would always be 100% ok with anything she does, that’s just an imbalanced relationship. The relationship was bound to fail because these two had different values of what a relationship is. Both aren’t wrong for they want tho. Just didn’t communicate well unfortunately
Maybe this is just the romantic in me, but I just have a hard time understanding people who value their job more than putting effort into their marriage. (This would be true if the roles were reversed and the husband was the workaholic too). Your job is going to end someday, and after you leave no one will care what you did. Your boss is not going to take care of you when you're sick. Your coworkers aren't going to keep you company in the nursing home. Do you work to live or live to work?
I understand taking pride in your job, but if it ruins your home life, what's the point?