well i'd say you better keep it a secret from him for a while, after you deem that he's trustworthy enough then do tell him. though i agree with what the person above me commented, if he doesn't respect ur preferences and tastes he def ain't a keeper, ofc this is all in my opinion only, in the end it's all up to you ( ̄へ ̄)
Well smthn like this is extremely hidden and personal, maybe he won't judge but he may feel weird that u brought it up out of nowhere or there was no need to tell it to him. imagine a reverse scenario, will it not be weird for a guy to suddenly tell a girl he likes that he watches porn?
But see to ur own circumstance, maybe it's complicated in a way we don't know
i hope it helps but I agree that you should just casually bring it up and as early as possible too if it scares you this much! My partner never judged me for it and treated it so casually, it was like we were talking about an action genre lol. If you're scared of the possibility of it being spread around, just ask him about the topic like "Do you read BLs?" "What do you think about BLs?" If he does have a rather strong and negative opinion about it then he's not worth it.
short sneak peek convo about it with my partner:
"Did I told you already that I read BLs?"
"No but I expected it."
That was literally it lol.
I straight away tell them im into bL like.....(internally...I don't care because I'm like "I don't mind going seperate ways just because you don't like me now that you now knw I read yaoi so please here's the door to go outta my life because if you don't like me reading it then I have no space for you in my life because you can't accept me as a person who has interest in reading or watching yaoi the I don't have space for you in my life")
Gosh this is how I am so I knw who are good ones and who are fake ones
basically what the title says. im not in a relationship yet but ive been going on a few dates with this guy and i have a feeling hes going to ask me out soon. how do yall feel about this? should you let your partner know? or is it only right that i stop reading explicit stuff?