Wtf? Hold the ceremony without an actual wedding? That's just bullshit. I get, not having a ceremony and only registering the marriage, there could be many reasons like money issues, or maybe they just don't like weddings, or they don't feel like it's necessary and only register for tax/inheritance/law/whatever reasons.
But the reverse makes absolutely no sense. You essentially have an expensive party, that is a mockery of an important life event, and in the end you are left with nothing. If you want a party, just throw some random party, why a wedding themed one? For 5 times the price?
It's especially irritating, because Kotani is essentially just trying to get Shishikura to fuck off, without actually trying to find a compromise. Like, if you don't want to get married, then don't. But you also need to date people who are on the same page as you. If your partner really wants to get married, and puts a lot of importance to it, then you can't just hold a fake wedding and expect him to be content, since the whole point isn't a stupidly expensive themed party, it's the fact that they get married. Like, you know, legally binding, official papers as proof, actual proper married status?
Kotani's words scream "I don't want commitment, but I want him to shut up and stop crying, so I will pretend to give him what he wants without actually giving it". Like, bro. Either give it to him or don't.
Like, man, he actually tried to sabotage Shishikura's meeting with a man, whom he was seeing for the specific goal of eventually getting married(!!!), and Kotani was perfectly aware of it. If getting married was so off putting for Kotani, that he would veto Shishikura's dreams and lifegoal, then he should have fucking said so during the whole confession scene. Like, you don't fucking get into a relationship with someone who is actively hunting for a marriage partner, without 1) fucking telling him about your aversion to proper commitment, and 2) being ready to get fucking married.
I mean, I can't blame Shishikura here - getting married is what is expected, it's the normal in a relationship. He was also not at all secretive about wanting it, it was common knowledge that he went to marriage interviews. Which means, that anyone who got into a relationship with him was basically agreeing to potentially getting married. The fact that Kotani still refused, and now wants to placate Shishikura with a mockery of a wedding, is especially irritating.
It reminds me of a story I heard, about an old man, who complained, that his wife was never maternal towards her children, and she became really cold after marriage. They got married during a time when divorce wasn't an option for women. Before they got married, before they even started a relationship, she told him, plain and simple, that she doesn't want kids. She just doesn't, and she will marry only if he is okay with that. He wanted kids, but still wanted her to be his wife, so he lied that he was okay with it. He decided, that he will change her mind. So when they got married, he just declared that they will have kids, and she was not in a position to do anything about it. Obviously, she was unhappy with him, and obviously she wasn't maternal to the kids she never wanted. Yet he still had the gall to complain.
Kotani is giving me the same vibes. Sure, he probably has some reasons for why he doesn't want to get married. But that doesn't change the fact, that he got into a relationship with someone who had clear expectations, while he himself had the opposite expectations (that he hid), and expected Shishikura to be okay with it. I mean, it's not as simple as to wether be wants blue or purple curtains. It's a major fucking life event
Wtf? Hold the ceremony without an actual wedding? That's just bullshit. I get, not having a ceremony and only registering the marriage, there could be many reasons like money issues, or maybe they just don't like weddings, or they don't feel like it's necessary and only register for tax/inheritance/law/whatever reasons.
But the reverse makes absolutely no sense. You essentially have an expensive party, that is a mockery of an important life event, and in the end you are left with nothing. If you want a party, just throw some random party, why a wedding themed one? For 5 times the price?
It's especially irritating, because Kotani is essentially just trying to get Shishikura to fuck off, without actually trying to find a compromise. Like, if you don't want to get married, then don't. But you also need to date people who are on the same page as you. If your partner really wants to get married, and puts a lot of importance to it, then you can't just hold a fake wedding and expect him to be content, since the whole point isn't a stupidly expensive themed party, it's the fact that they get married. Like, you know, legally binding, official papers as proof, actual proper married status?
Kotani's words scream "I don't want commitment, but I want him to shut up and stop crying, so I will pretend to give him what he wants without actually giving it". Like, bro. Either give it to him or don't.
Like, man, he actually tried to sabotage Shishikura's meeting with a man, whom he was seeing for the specific goal of eventually getting married(!!!), and Kotani was perfectly aware of it. If getting married was so off putting for Kotani, that he would veto Shishikura's dreams and lifegoal, then he should have fucking said so during the whole confession scene. Like, you don't fucking get into a relationship with someone who is actively hunting for a marriage partner, without 1) fucking telling him about your aversion to proper commitment, and 2) being ready to get fucking married.
I mean, I can't blame Shishikura here - getting married is what is expected, it's the normal in a relationship. He was also not at all secretive about wanting it, it was common knowledge that he went to marriage interviews. Which means, that anyone who got into a relationship with him was basically agreeing to potentially getting married. The fact that Kotani still refused, and now wants to placate Shishikura with a mockery of a wedding, is especially irritating.
It reminds me of a story I heard, about an old man, who complained, that his wife was never maternal towards her children, and she became really cold after marriage. They got married during a time when divorce wasn't an option for women. Before they got married, before they even started a relationship, she told him, plain and simple, that she doesn't want kids. She just doesn't, and she will marry only if he is okay with that. He wanted kids, but still wanted her to be his wife, so he lied that he was okay with it. He decided, that he will change her mind. So when they got married, he just declared that they will have kids, and she was not in a position to do anything about it. Obviously, she was unhappy with him, and obviously she wasn't maternal to the kids she never wanted. Yet he still had the gall to complain.
Kotani is giving me the same vibes. Sure, he probably has some reasons for why he doesn't want to get married. But that doesn't change the fact, that he got into a relationship with someone who had clear expectations, while he himself had the opposite expectations (that he hid), and expected Shishikura to be okay with it. I mean, it's not as simple as to wether be wants blue or purple curtains. It's a major fucking life event