I TAKE BACK WHAT I SAID BEFORE

Fujoshi_beach June 30, 2024 2:29 pm

But genuine question, if you are in Yuu-nii's position, how do you properly reject this child's advances and make him properly understand the difference of their "likes"?

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    Fujoshi_beach June 30, 2024 2:45 pm

    Tsubaki's emotions in itself isn't something "wrong", however, what's concerning is how Yuu is responding. I think it's very wrong of him to give hope on to a literal CHILD. And that he doesn't set proper boundaries/discipline.

    I get that you don't want to be hated by such an adorable child you think of as your sibling, but as someone older (and sane), he should be responsible enough when responding to him. It'll be like your unconsciously grooming him. And that's a BIG NO NO, unconscious or not.

    I guess I appreciate the fact that he's not 'preying' on him, that would've been a DIFFERENT story. But nonetheless, that's still a child, he doesn't know better, not that I'm belittling a child's intelligence, but over all they're still in the process of understanding things and of the world, and tsubaki wouldn't have understood why it's wrong.

    Fujoshi_beach June 30, 2024 2:50 pm
    Tsubaki's emotions in itself isn't something "wrong", however, what's concerning is how Yuu is responding. I think it's very wrong of him to give hope on to a literal CHILD. And that he doesn't set proper bound... Fujoshi_beach

    Honestly, the 7 year age gap would've been a different story if it was set on a timeline where tsubaki realized his feelings later on during his teenage years (around 17-19). It's still questionable, but it's way more acceptable this set up.

    Drugsarentthatgood June 30, 2024 4:53 pm

    Tsubaki Is not a real child his thoughts are not innocent because they don't come from a child, they come from an adult with sick fantasies about children, sexualizes said children in multiple of their stories and is a full on pedo

    Fujoshi_beach June 30, 2024 11:30 pm
    Tsubaki Is not a real child his thoughts are not innocent because they don't come from a child, they come from an adult with sick fantasies about children, sexualizes said children in multiple of their stories ... Drugsarentthatgood

    yeah, ig im looking at it him in a perspective of a real elementary schooler. But it's true that his thoughts and actions are reflected of that from the authors'

    Aoi July 1, 2024 2:34 am
    Tsubaki's emotions in itself isn't something "wrong", however, what's concerning is how Yuu is responding. I think it's very wrong of him to give hope on to a literal CHILD. And that he doesn't set proper bound... Fujoshi_beach

    yea correct.. based on what i learned in uni
    Yuu literally cherish Tsubaki as someone important in his life but also he's a little "yes man" type of guy and a little confused and i remember when he confessed (the child i mean) Yuu asked the girl classmate for an advice and she said "you might treat him seriously" something like that. But he knows that what Tsubaki doing is wrong but he doesn't know how to tell him cuz he's afraid of breaking his heart or making him cry (Tsubaki is 12 so anyone will feel guilty if u make s.o at that age cry) so he came with a conclusion that he'll take his confession seriously and also he'll just go with the flow with whatever which is wrong bcuz like u said as the "older" one (yuu is minor so i won't say he's an adult) he must explain what's right and what's wrong and what does it mean to not cross a line until they're both adult and talk about the whole relationship. (This a real life prespective) but tbh the author might think what she/he idk doing is cute and fluffy (which is not) but i still cnt wrap my mind around how people in Japan r allowing this my brother lived there for a while and he told me they have a very strict laws and rules

    Hasegawa Tazio July 1, 2024 2:58 am

    Bro I cant be in a relationship with you, it’s illegal and Imma go to jail. I am not a pedo bro. (Exactly how id say it lmao)

    Riren July 1, 2024 7:52 am

    I would not know. My sister was with a 17 year old when she was 12. Now they are married for many years and have 2 children. It depends from situation to situation. let's not forget that when puberty arrives we are no longer children and sexual impulses arrive for everyone. Let's not act stupid as if we hadn't been through that phase.
    in any case we are talking about fiction here so we cannot make any comparison with reality. as with any other fictional product.

    GLORIOUSKINGKABRU July 1, 2024 10:59 am
    I would not know. My sister was with a 17 year old when she was 12. Now they are married for many years and have 2 children. It depends from situation to situation. let's not forget that when puberty arrives ... Riren

    While the exact age of consent and legality can vary by country and jurisdiction, it is crucial to consider the power dynamics and maturity levels involved in such relationships. A significant age difference like this, especially between a minor and a young adolescent, can create an imbalance in power and understanding, leading to potential harm and exploitation. It is important to prioritize the well-being and safety of all parties involved.

    The 12-year-old is an elementary school child, while the 17-year-old is a high school student. This age gap is significant and can create a power difference that might lead to exploitation or harm. The emotional maturity, life experience, and understanding of the world are significantly different between a 12-year-old and a 17-year-old, and this can create an imbalanced dynamic in the relationship.

    The American Psychological Association (APA) states that relationships with significant power differences and age gaps, like a 17-year-old dating a 12-year-old, can lead to emotional and even physical harm to the youngest partner. This is because the younger individual is still developing physically and emotionally, making them more vulnerable to manipulation and coercion. The APA also states that the older individual may have more power and control in the relationship, leading to an imbalanced and potentially abusive dynamic.

    Furthermore, many psychologists and child development experts state that children and adolescents are not able to give informed consent to a relationship with such an age gap. Children at these young ages are still developing physically and emotionally, and their brains are not fully formed and are therefore not equipped to make decisions about intimate relationships with older individuals. They are more susceptible to manipulation and coercion, and may not fully understand the potential consequences and risks associated with such relationships.

    Psychiatrists and pediatricians have also stated that relationships with significant age gaps can have harmful psychological effects on children and adolescents. They may experience depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and in some cases, they may even develop eating disorders and other mental health issues. Furthermore, they may also become more prone to risky behaviors and substance abuse.

    In summary, psychologists, child development experts, psychiatrists, and pediatricians all agree that relationships with significant age gaps, particularly between a 17-year-old and a 12-year-old, can be psychologically harmful, lead to emotional and physical abuse, and can negatively affect the younger individual's development.

    Hope your sister gets a divorce, therapy and a better sibling cuz you're a failure of a human being.

    Riren July 1, 2024 3:50 pm
    While the exact age of consent and legality can vary by country and jurisdiction, it is crucial to consider the power dynamics and maturity levels involved in such relationships. A significant age difference li... GLORIOUSKINGKABRU

    bro less drugs in your life. My sister was in high school, not elementary school. In my country a 12 year old person doesn't go to primary school. You Americans puritan should learn to get off the pedestal of "we are always right" because that's not the case. Not all countries are the same and not all situations can be based on prejudice. They liked each other and chose each other. Nobody forced them. You should learn not to judge others especially if you don't know shit. They love each other. you are just a person filled with anger and frustration.

    GLORIOUSKINGKABRU July 1, 2024 4:01 pm
    bro less drugs in your life. My sister was in high school, not elementary school. In my country a 12 year old person doesn't go to primary school. You Americans puritan should learn to get off the pedestal o... Riren

    > professionals who work with children say it's harmful
    > You "Uh my 12 year old sister was totally not groomed by her 17 year old boyfriend, you're a puritan!!!"
    > You're a rapist supporter and a pedophile. I'd rather be a puritan than allow my sister to be taken advantage of you fuckass weirdo

    Riren July 1, 2024 4:34 pm
    > professionals who work with children say it's harmful> You "Uh my 12 year old sister was totally not groomed by her 17 year old boyfriend, you're a puritan!!!" > You're a rapist supporter and a pedop... GLORIOUSKINGKABRU

    You are no professional. you are crazy. who raped who? who touched children? why don't you go to psychiatry? You don't even know how old I am compared to my sister. and when my relatives then had sex. they got married long after they came of age 18. And even if they had done it before, it's their business. Nobody forced anyone.you're sick.

    Keoelo July 1, 2024 5:24 pm
    bro less drugs in your life. My sister was in high school, not elementary school. In my country a 12 year old person doesn't go to primary school. You Americans puritan should learn to get off the pedestal o... Riren

    12?? 12 is considered a middle schooler even if in your country they might be considered a high schooler does not change the fact that your sister was young and going through puberty while her bf was way over that. Also did you even realize your sister could’ve been possibly groomed by her bf?

    lanen July 1, 2024 5:28 pm
    You are no professional. you are crazy. who raped who? who touched children? why don't you go to psychiatry? You don't even know how old I am compared to my sister. and when my relatives then had sex. they... Riren

    I am staying out of the cultural battle going on here. I am curious though, what country do you live in?

    GLORIOUSKINGKABRU July 1, 2024 5:31 pm
    I am staying out of the cultural battle going on here. I am curious though, what country do you live in? lanen

    The way i'm not even American and they just assumed it because i'm against pedophilia?

    Keoelo July 1, 2024 5:35 pm
    The way i'm not even American and they just assumed it because i'm against pedophilia? GLORIOUSKINGKABRU

    You don’t have to be American to be against pedophilia

    Keoelo July 1, 2024 5:38 pm
    bro less drugs in your life. My sister was in high school, not elementary school. In my country a 12 year old person doesn't go to primary school. You Americans puritan should learn to get off the pedestal o... Riren

    Are you sure she was not groomed to love her groomer? I mean like 12 is a pretty young age compared to 17 which is almost an adult. I mean groomers manipulate young kids who seem innocent and make them think it’s love so yea…

    GLORIOUSKINGKABRU July 1, 2024 5:39 pm
    You don’t have to be American to be against pedophilia Keoelo

    Yeah that's why I'm confused as to why they assumed i'm American??

    GLORIOUSKINGKABRU July 1, 2024 5:40 pm
    Are you sure she was not groomed to love her groomer? I mean like 12 is a pretty young age compared to 17 which is almost an adult. I mean groomers manipulate young kids who seem innocent and make them think it... Keoelo

    They don't get it, they think it's okay because their sister was "mature"

    Keoelo July 1, 2024 5:42 pm
    They don't get it, they think it's okay because their sister was "mature" GLORIOUSKINGKABRU

    That’s a pretty dumb mindset honestly like just because a 12 year old was mature does not change the fact that their brain is not fully developed

    GLORIOUSKINGKABRU July 1, 2024 5:49 pm
    That’s a pretty dumb mindset honestly like just because a 12 year old was mature does not change the fact that their brain is not fully developed Keoelo

    To them basic understanding that the maturity level of a 17 year old is on a whole different level to a 12 years old is "American puritanism", porn probably burned their braincells