EXACTLY. I fking hate when they go with she is your mom or he is your father you need to forgive etc. WHY SHOULD I ? I didnt choose them and bcz of them im in this situation they fucked up my life my everything
Parenting isnt just giving birth they dont understand. God im so angry
I feel you on that. There’s a saying that it takes a village to raise a child so why do parents think that children can raise themselves and it end up okay? It’s such a shame. Forgiving ourselves for hating ourselves or thinking we did something to deserve this is one thing but to forgive those who put us in that position is something we are never obligated to consider let alone give. I wish you forgiveness on yourself and healing. I see you and I am so incredibly proud of you and I love you. Even if our parents (or whoever it was) doesn’t, I do. They may have fucked up your life but here’s to flipping yourself over and living and fucking it back!
Thank you i cried a little bit while reading. Just before i wrote that my mom came and told me he is still your father dont disrespect him forgive him etc. I never felt this angry before. My mom always told me bcz of me she is suffering every fking time of my life she didnt leave but instead used me to vent her anger issues... i always hear my dad saying im manipulating my mom and how unfilial i am.
it is hard and i cannot leave bcz some circumtances but now i have anger issues and depression...
Yeah I was in the same position as a kid. At some point we went to a women’s refuge but both of them still continued to tell me how much they hated each other and how it was my fault and how much like the other parent I was. I honestly think that most people just don’t deserve to have children. The anger issues will eventually be managed but it won’t ever go away. You’ll have to work super hard just to get it to a point where you don’t want to become a bomb and blow everything up. I’m 21 and I still have internal anger and depression. I found out even more stuff that is actually a massive crime (and in my family’s religion, would be punishable by death in certain countries) happened against me. I won’t say it gets better but as you get older, you gain more power and more control and therapy techniques honestly help. Feel free to dm me if you ever need advice or to vent. I know we are just people who read manhwas and mangas about two dudes fucking but I’m pretty sure we have a good community here. You aren’t alone. You can have a digital village to help continue to raise you. It won’t be the same but it’s pretty heartwarming! I’m sending lots of love and cuddles and headpats your way!
oh btw im 22 years old so xD Thank you im sending lots of hugs your way too (づ￣ ³￣)づ
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You think he doesn’t know that? The matter of the fact is that children are hard wired in their brains to unconditionally love their parents and seek approval from them. It’s basic biology. So why is it that no one ever asks “what tf did the parent do that would overwrite the hard wiring in the child? How badly did they screw up in order to force the child to hate someone they were biologically forced to unconditionally love?” His mum not only abandoned him BUT ABANDONED HIM WITH AN ABUSER!! “But he turned out successful!” Means nothing if he’s suffering and has suffered all this time! People who have never been in this situation won’t understand. No one will understand what it’s like to be forced to overwrite your unconditional love and biology in order to appropriately keep yourself safe unless you’ve lived it. He was forced to endure an abuser who by the way LEFT HIM WITH SEVERE PSYCHOLOGICAL DAMAGE TO THE POINT HE CANT TASTE ANYMORE!! I don’t think people understand how messed up that is. He was abused to the point he lost one of his main senses… imagine if that sense was sight or touch or hearing. He would be considered disabled. Blindness, deaf or severe nerve damage is considered to be a huge deal but why not any of the other senses? His sense of taste has been lost. It’s one of the main senses for a reason!! We have about 30+ senses overall but only 5 made it to basic education. That’s how important they are. And his mum is the cause of him losing it by abandoning him with the dad. She deserves nothing but hatred and disdain. No wonder she never sought him out. She knew she didn’t have any right to seek him after she abandoned her own child. Which btw, mothers are biologically hard wired to prioritise their children’s safety over their own safety. What does it say about the mother that she got away on her own?