daichi was struggling with internalised homophobia which i thought is a nice thing to delve into since most BLs gloss over it. that's cool and everything.
but he was also struggling with the fact of noburu "treating him like a girl" which was imo not the case, noburu was just being protective and jealous which is somehting that occurs in most relationships. but here's the thing that irks me, noburu acknowledged that he wouldn't be happy if he was treated the same way, therefore he realizes that daichi isn't exactly being unreasonable or overreactive. but he never once apologizes to him for making him feel bad about himself (i don't like that "sorry, if that's what you want to hear" shit), and he then proceeds to make it about himself AND makes daichi be the only one to sincerely apologize. not only that, but he then doubles down and goes around calling daichi his wife and even compares him to women during sex.
maybe i'm being overly biased here bcs i'm an insecure person as well so i deeply relate to daichi. i honestly think daichi was kinda unreasonable, but he was the one hurting and his feelings are valid. i think, i wish noburu didn't make it more about himself and tried to talk about and understand all the issues daichi had (including his jealousy, which wasn't THAT unreasonable considering he quite literally compliments her LEGS. that's lowkey going into "checking her out" territory, add to that the fact that he judges his type based on legs... but ey, that's just me!!!) separately instead of just making it seem like it was just one big problem and not a bunch of problems that cumulated over time. but no, daichi was (poorly) trying to explain what he was feeling at the time and he ofc goes "we're not talking about the same thing", well DUH!!! a person can feel a lot of things and have many problems at the same time!!!!
but oh well... they had a happy ending at the of the day, so i'll just stop here and be happy for them i guess
i'm sorry but i don't like this one.
daichi was struggling with internalised homophobia which i thought is a nice thing to delve into since most BLs gloss over it. that's cool and everything.
but he was also struggling with the fact of noburu "treating him like a girl" which was imo not the case, noburu was just being protective and jealous which is somehting that occurs in most relationships. but here's the thing that irks me, noburu acknowledged that he wouldn't be happy if he was treated the same way, therefore he realizes that daichi isn't exactly being unreasonable or overreactive. but he never once apologizes to him for making him feel bad about himself (i don't like that "sorry, if that's what you want to hear" shit), and he then proceeds to make it about himself AND makes daichi be the only one to sincerely apologize. not only that, but he then doubles down and goes around calling daichi his wife and even compares him to women during sex.
maybe i'm being overly biased here bcs i'm an insecure person as well so i deeply relate to daichi. i honestly think daichi was kinda unreasonable, but he was the one hurting and his feelings are valid. i think, i wish noburu didn't make it more about himself and tried to talk about and understand all the issues daichi had (including his jealousy, which wasn't THAT unreasonable considering he quite literally compliments her LEGS. that's lowkey going into "checking her out" territory, add to that the fact that he judges his type based on legs... but ey, that's just me!!!) separately instead of just making it seem like it was just one big problem and not a bunch of problems that cumulated over time. but no, daichi was (poorly) trying to explain what he was feeling at the time and he ofc goes "we're not talking about the same thing", well DUH!!! a person can feel a lot of things and have many problems at the same time!!!!
but oh well... they had a happy ending at the of the day, so i'll just stop here and be happy for them i guess