Pure Childishness

SharkVice June 24, 2024 7:05 pm

I'm tired of stories with the whole "this is a fake marriage" or "I am your fake wife". If you are legally married then it's a real marriage. If it's a contract or arranged marriage, it is still a real marriage. If you consummated the marriage, it's a real marriage that was consummated. Oh you're planning to get divorced in X amount of years? Guess what, it's still a real marriage until you get divorced. Why the fuck is that so hard for the characters/writers to understand? What the hell do they think marriage is?

Responses
    Esti June 30, 2024 3:26 am

    Well yeah i agree but also it's more that we're in it only bc it benefits us and it's not much better then a arranged marriage and not marriage bc of love. So i think that's why it always goes like this. Lile sure we're marriage and all but this "relationship" has a end date literally signed on paper and we both know it and we only married each other to get away fro somethin/join powers to be stronger/or benefit in some other way. Sure we might tolerate each other but all of this doesn't mean that we want to be together forever (and later after one fall in love it doesn't mean that the other person wants to stay forever). And bc we won't be forever the other person will later get married to someone they like and that's why I'm a "fake" wife/husband.In those stories they think of the "real" partner as someone that they will be in love. So the "real " or "fake" have nothong to do with it being legal.

    SharkVice July 1, 2024 12:36 am
    Well yeah i agree but also it's more that we're in it only bc it benefits us and it's not much better then a arranged marriage and not marriage bc of love. So i think that's why it always goes like this.... Esti

    That's not what a marriage is. A marriage is a legal contract between two people. If it were just about the relationship aspect of it, you wouldn't need to get married. And marriage itself, the contract, does not have any relationship requirements. I understand that children are taught marriage=love. But any adult should understand that a marriage is a legally binding contract between two people. Ruby's "fake marriage" claim is ridiculous in this nobility setting. Nobles were known to marry based on gain and not love. The whole purpose of marriage is to link two individuals in the eyes of the law. Its functionality has nothing to do with love. I understand that romance in fiction is quite unrealistic. But still, this notion of thinking that a marriage is only real when there is love is so childish. It misses the point of what a marriage actually is. If the legal documentation is there and approved, the marriage is real. Whether you want to add love to it or not, or whether you plan to terminate the contract or not, the contract is real. I'm not judging you. I'm judging the author's and their immature portrayals of aspects of adulthood.

    Esti July 1, 2024 2:02 am
    That's not what a marriage is. A marriage is a legal contract between two people. If it were just about the relationship aspect of it, you wouldn't need to get married. And marriage itself, the contract, does n... SharkVice

    True, marriage is a contract amd not necessarily love but i think that's the reasoning in those type of stories that it's "fake". The could be also a reason that it has a time limit? I don't think that some of these stories are meant to be thought that deeply

    SharkVice July 1, 2024 5:09 pm
    True, marriage is a contract amd not necessarily love but i think that's the reasoning in those type of stories that it's "fake". The could be also a reason that it has a time limit? I don't think that som... Esti

    I, personally, at my current stage in life, am not forgiving of shallow sloppy writing that ignores context. To be clear, such inconsistencies don't necessarily make the entire story trash. There's definitely good points about this one. It's just the writing could be better. In this particular case, Bea didn't even need to bring up the stupid idea of being a "fake" wife to express a sense of yearning for something better with Louie. She could've just thought about how she's (in her mind) not the most important person to Louie and that would've expressed the same thing. Ignoring IRL conventions, that whole fake marriage idea is contradictory to the setting the author themselves built. I understand plenty of people can overlook such flaws. I can't.