Thank you for the input, if posible could you resolve a question. I do understand that asexual people can have sexual intercourse with their partners, but then what exactly is the asexual aspect? It is some kind of low libido? Or maybe a different aproach to sex? Sorry if my questions are rude, I don't mean to be disrespctful, and if wan again sorry. Oh! And happy pride month! <3
It's absolutely fine. You're not being rude at all. I will try to explain it in details as much as possible and go deeper into my personal experiences so it's easier for you to understand.
I'm sure you’ve heard about gay men pretending to be hetero for various reasons. Some of them go as far as getting married to a woman or having children. It doesn’t mean they're getting aroused by their wives' bodies but they somehow still manage to ejaculate and impregnate their wives. It goes somewhat like that for Asexual people (with Partner who are not asexual) as well. And it still feels good if the sensitive points of any adult, healthy human body is stimulated.
I'm a girl in my 20's and a virgin, I do not masturbate (or inserted anything in my lady bits including tampons, sorry if it's too much information) so I have no first hand experience and cannot tell you how it exactly feels for Asexual people who does have s*x but I did watch p0πn and I'm quite sure I'm perfectly capable of heterosexual s*x and reproducing. I might be Hetero-romantic and I'm getting hit on by men all the time but I just personally never felt like doing it and I see no point risking myself of std or pregnancy (which can cause countless health issues and even de*th for women), for those few minutes of stimulation (that's just me, I'm not saying every Asexual person thinks that way). And I don’t feel like being a mom either so it worked out for me. As for the attraction for the opposite sex, it doesn’t go beyond appreciation. I see a beautiful man, I feel like I'm watching a nice painting or a sculpture. Something that's aesthetically pleasing. I view beautiful female body exactly the way. Even more aesthetically pleasing actually. But s*x never crossed my mind when it comes to any man I've met and absolutely not with women. Lesbian s*x just doesn’t make sense to me (not being offensive, I apologise to any lesbian individual reading this who felt offended but I absolutely didn’t mean to). On the other hand, dating or being married to a guy makes perfect sense to me specially if it's Chris/Liam Hemsworth or Henry Cavill Lol.
I think I'm asexual. My answer to your question would be that while I do feel like I can manage to have sex with someone I'm romantically interested in, it would be because my partner likes it. I would like the fact that it makes him happy but not the act of sex itself. I could go my whole life without having sex and I would never miss it.
Exactly THIS!
There are aces with high libido. Having sex with someone doesn't mean that you find them sexually attractive.
There are no people that I desire to have sex with but if someone wanted to do it with me then depending on how much I trust them I might do it.
I feel like not even loving someone would make me want to have s*x due to the physical risks of it. I'm extremely picky to begin with, being Asexual just makes it harder for me to find someone to date.
We are good examples of a sex-neutral ace (me) and a sex-repulsed ace (you).
Soo can asexual people doesn't get married or come in relationship or what ?? Sorry I don't have any knowledge on this
Asexual people need not be aromantic. For example, I can fall in love with someone without being sexually attracted to them. I would still crave affection, physical touch like hugs and kisses, a romantic relationship or marriage even but,not sex. However even if I don't crave sex I can partake in it if my partner wants to, because It's important to me that he feels my affection too. But if my partner is not interested in sex, we wouldn't have sex. But it's not the same for everyone.Some hate sex and cannot partake in sex even with someone they love, some cannot love a person in a romantic way at all. I think there are still many kinds of asexual people but I'm not too knowledgeable about them
I wouldn’t consider myself sex-repulsed. I'm not repulsed by the thoughts of having s*x. I just don't find any reason to do it (considering the risks that come with it, I think s*x is not worth all that) and wouldn’t do it unless it's a unique situation or I meet someone that much important to me.
They CAN, doesn’t necessarily mean they will though. Some people even live their whole lives, get old and pass away without ever knowing they were Asexuals. They might even leave behind children and grandchildren cause maybe they had no other choice but to marry or maybe they had a loving partner who they were okay with doing it. Either way it wouldn’t be easy for you to tell if someone's Asexual unless they tell you about it, since people can stay single and/or celibate for various reasons (if that's what you wanted to know)
Im sorry i pressed the dislike button accidentaly :((( mean to vote thoo thanks a lot for long explanation dear
How can you be asexual but have a sexuality? Talk about contradiction. I can't even.
I don't know a lot about what all comes under asexual label, but I heard that it's a wide range, so I can't really answer your question. But to be honest, I think that when you don't understand something it's okay to ask questions, just be nice about it.
It's fine. (●'◡'●)ﾉ <3
Just like talking about fresh water not having any flavour. It doesn’t have any flavour but that doesn’t mean we can't talk about the lack of flavour in it. I mean how else are we gonna define it? And Sexuality ≠ Sex, its the
Sexuality is a way of defining someone's sexual behaviour, attraction they feel (or don't feel) towards others and the physical and psychological aspect of it.
You take the word 'repulsed' too literally. You are for the most part aversed to the idea of having sex with someone so you may prefer to use sex-averse if sex-repulsed doesn't suit you. But you are like 95% sex-averse and 5% sex-neutral in unique situations. The percentages may be different according to how you feel but that's what you look like to me.
Well, if you put it like that it sure makes sense.
I'm not interested in a debate. I was just saying my thoughts out loud. If someone feels offended by what I said. Oh well, stay offended. Categorizing being "asexual" as a sexuality is just giving B.S. just another mind fuck topic people want to normalize.
I'm an asexual girl. People often mistake Asexuality as a trauma response or impotence. Actually it's not, it’s a sexuality and just like homosexual people naturally get sexually aroused by people of same sex, Asexual people don't get sexually aroused by anybody. However, that doesn’t mean they can't get arroused at all. Their biological function is similar to any healthy human being.
Here's a few things to clear up some common misinformation -
Asexual people CAN ejaculate.
CAN have s*x with their Heterosexual or Homosexual partner (speciaally if they're not Aromantic as well. Some are Hetero-romantic/Homo-romantic/Bi-romantic and have s*x with their partner who might not be Asexual, for various reasons like wanting to connect with them, wanting to make them feel good/make themselves feel good, reproduce etc. Yes, some Asexual people Do Have S*x to feel good.)
CAN reproduce naturally.
CAN masturbate (watch p0πn and get aroused)
They might or might not have aversion towards s*x.
Asexual people CAN still find other people with certain physical appearance attractive (just like a piece of art or art style is appreciated)