I mean he is, but it also happened after he was emotionally troubled because his boyfriend told him they're not going to last forever. Like, someone else posted this around here but this is all happening because they have different ages and perspectives on love. Where one is experiencing his first serious relationship, the other one has lived through more than one "forever" probably, which imo doesn't mean he gets to be that insensitive like LMAO even if I know that you can't promise forever if my partner told me straight to my face that we're a bump in the road of life I would kick their ass (with words). Yiyoung for now is just salty and is thinking about things the way a kid would, not an excuse but understandable. I'm not super happy with this new plot but guess we'll see how it develops. As it stands, Yiyoung wants Kang forever, and Kang should tell him that what he said doesn't mean he can't wait for it to end, it's a classic misunderstanding damn it I hate love triangles
Outside of the relationship point Chechu ably explained one also needs to look at it from the point of view of a baby gay experiencing what is absolutely normal for most cishets. You're blurring into one thing what are two different situations at play that could impact each other but don't have a causal relationship.
He's not wavering because of a hot new man. His *partner* is the one who put their relationship in an uncertain light (as he understood it). That's one thing. The other is just him enjoying on a human level the complimentary attentions of a hot guy. The reasons it's new for him have nothing to do with being "immature" and have everything to do with homophobic societies and/or just reaching this stage later than what's deemed "normal".
It sounds like you don't understand what it's like to be gay where you can't safely be out/open. That IS a special experience, when someone else who's interested in the same gender hits on you like that. Because it's rare, esp in homophobic societies. If you don't understand, then don't criticize it.
Because when you do — applying heteronormativity to gay experiences — you're exemplifying your ignorance by invalidating very real experiences gay people have. How can you read gay webcomics while holding on to heteronormative perspectives?
Nah, I feel for both because I've been in a relationship with an older person and had them be like that to me, and they were right! Relationship didn't last long but it was nice, later on I dated someone not younger but very hopeful and it truly is hard to manage when the other person wants you to promise forever and you're like damn man we haven't even been a year together. That's what I meant, Yiyoung is being childish because he's a child, and Kang is being cynical because he's older, I just don't like the Other Man plot
(obviously this is none of my business but as you have shared on public portal...)Have you thought that maybe you didn't last with the older person because they didn't believe it would last like oh it was going to end anyway now might be a good chance to put an end to it?....and with the more hopeful person you yourself were wary like bruh that one didn't last how will this one and whats with this *childish optimism* been there done that cringe kinda moment?
Well whatever the reason may be I do believe that we build any relation on love/like and mutual belief...(I don't know if that comes off as something a straight woman would naturally say not knowing the struggles or its because of what I have seen in these 27 yrs of my life)
Mutual belief that this other person will have the best interests for me, would be there to help me when times are rough and in this rough times if our relationship is tested we will withstand it.
If the older person is so cynical and obviously a fortune teller then why get into that relationship and waste the other persons time? Let them find someone thier age.
Brings me to another very intresting question i do happen to see big age gaps in relationship around me...these people get married...last all their lives together...is it because they want to honor the holy matrimony or they just worked it all through? Or its because it's straight couples?
Oh no, the first one didn't last because we had difficulty scheduling to meet and we ended up separating amicably, among other things of course and yeah it hurt but it was for the best, and the second one I'm talking dude was one month in and thinking marriage and we had met not too long ago either. That one went sour for other things but yeah, idk if it had something to do with my mental state (as in, forever or not) but they ended. I don't believe age (when you're legal and not that much of a gap, I don't think a 50yo has any business dating a 21yo) is a deterrent but it does come with their own pros and cons.
Well you obviously have a bias side or at least that’s what is obvious the way you strongly feel more for Yiyoung cuz i only said i can see director kangs perspective in my original topic and then you blow up on me how it’s supposed to be so much more fucking difficult for yiyoung like bruh i get it
Yiyoung still immature imo if he’s wavering just cuz some new hot boy in town flirted with him a little. I can totally see director kang’s perspective.