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I find funny how she is crying about how misstreated she was, yet never knew that the guy got severly abused, kiddnaped to whole other world, not knowing the language, not knowing to read it, being forced to work for them with treats of destroing his nation ....... If she cared, or if she was not always just in self pitty she would know that he didnt have it easy too, or at least feel it. In comparison to him, her problems seem funny to me.
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Woah? That's kinda victim Blamey don't you think.
Yeah sure she never knew that cause he never bothered telling her in the first place. She quite literally thought he hated her.
Also are we sure the guy got severely abused? Like the plot isn't that well written but "got kidnapped by Korean bureaucracy" is a hell of an explanation for why he never left lmaoooooo.
Did I misread and did that actually happen? Cause I didn't find the chapters where it says they threatened to destroy his nation.
Her "problem" was that she was in an abusive relationship. Not to diminish what he went through, but he's still the perpetrator in her woes.
It's very plainly laid out that he was manipulative and controlling and the only reason she stayed is cause she white literally had no one else to go to. When you create a safety network you start treating yourself better cause you finally get to see what real love and care is like.
She's not acting like her life was the worst thing to ever happen to her. But it's in the past, and now that she has people who love her, she won't put herself through what she went through again
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Haha I love how we see it diferently!
In his story, (first time) , saint was only one Who could help them. And she said that if he comes to earth with her she will bring many more healers with her. (i am sorry i read it some time ago and dont remember names exactly)
Yet when they came she never opened portal for him to go back, nor wanted to bring more healers back to his country. And forced him to help goverment in return of some promises. After saint could not be paired with him our girl did... At first he didnt Like her but that changed with time. And everyone apart from her could see that he loved her. And she became his weakness for when he is not listening to orders properly . Ofc that does not excuse bad comunication... But in that sense and my understanding he wanted to protect her best way he could... How is it not victim blaming then when he is suffering. Both may be victims so lets put that argument aside. I dont feel Like we are getting whole picture in this manga you know... Its all her pov.
He never left... Bcs how could he when he cant open portal. And now they are saying they will harm his wife and only person able to calm him down. Meaning.. His death basicaly.
She didnt try to look at his situation, after she knew it she never tried to understand it better even after he begged.. Like.. No... Im not vibing her at all. There eis difference betwen victim blaming and just saying she is stupid. What he did was also bad, what she did was also bad. There is never any person with "only this one is right! Slay!" but Like... She could have known if she tried... If someone is from diff world you probably will be able to tell that they are suspicious in some ways. After living together so long. I am more on his Side. I understand his actions more. How can you just cry that someone hates you without trying to know them.
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Uhh I totally agree with OP here. Yes, he did get tricked into going to Korea with fake saintess to bring more guides but she didn't force him to help the government, he clearly says they bound him. I do agree that he initial disliked but grew to love FMC but I don't think it was obvious to anyone but him and the fake saintess. He literally showed no affection to her ever and that's because she was his weakness. She was obviously his physical weakness because she's the only guide he's compatible with but he hid that she was his emotional weakness as well, and that include hiding it from FMC. The only time he seemed even remotely affectionate is when she was sick and she thought it was a fever dream.
Yes, they were definitely under continuous threat and he wanted to keep her safe but like OP said, he literally never communicated anything. Even if he had good intentions in the name of love, literally dragging her from friends and keeping her home only to ignore her is so toxic. He doesn't own her, they should have discussed the problem and I'm sure she would've been more careful and understood. Instead he kept silent and just made himself look like a super controlling husband. HE did that to himself, no one forced him to be quiet, even if he couldn't be openly loving to FMC.
FMC didn't consider his POV, but he never considered hers either. That's why he deluded himself into thinking she would still be in love with him in his world, he thinks he didn't do anything wrong when he barely did anything right. Yes, they're both victims but at least he had all the facts the whole time they were together while she was always in the dark until she reincarnated. Also, you say she could have tried and from living together she should have known something was different but it shouldn't be only on FMC to connect with her partner in the relationship. They should both put in the work to be equals, otherwise the unbalanced relationship is doomed to fail. She made it obvious that she loved him but he never reciprocated that in any perceiveable way so how could she know? They were basically friends with benefits including legal ones since they were married. Also this pissed me off; it's really far-fucking-fetched for FMC to just assume he's from another world? That literally doesn't make sense. Guides and sentinels are standard in the novel/webcomic but fricking dimensional travel isn't and it's not like she's some otaku or something who's like "OMG isekai he's definitely from another world he can't fool me". She's going to do the reasonable thing and assume he's just distant and aloof BECAUSE HE WAS.
FMC went went through her development by being able to love and being able to freely RECEIVE love for the first time in TWO lifetimes, of course she's going to realize how bad her relationship was and try to prevent the same situation from happening again. Obviously they still end up together in the end but he needs to reflect on how poor his behavior actually was and development some personality depth before it happens.
Finally, the webcomic doesn't really portray ML's POV as much as FMC's true, but the novel flips between their POVs much more often and it shows that he himself acknowledges that he kept himself purposefully distant from her with thr exception of needing her guiding (because it makes them intimate). Yes he did explain the reasoning was to protect her but he doesn't even acknowledge what that does to her. He has all the information but is too blind to see the hurt he causes. Again, he is also a victim since he never asked to be trapped in Korea but that never excuses anyone from perpetuating the cycle of emotional pain like he does.
Sorry for the rant, but FMC went through a shitty, unloved life and got an amazing second chance and ML needs to realize she's not the same person she was before he gets HIS second chance. He needs to realize that she doesn't owe him anything and he needs to prove himself.
Lmaoooo idk if it's the intended purpose but this is so funny to me.
Also I just really like her reaction. They'll probably end up together regardless but so far she's held up better than most female leads who claim they don't want anything to do with the male lead but then succumb to it when he so much as breathes in their direction.
I also love how she mentions it's cause she has a family now. "I wonder why I'm not so dependent on him anymore. Maybe it's cause I have a family that actually loves me now" lmaoooo so unintentionally funny
Honestly the saintess here doesn't really bother me. She's obv in the wrong but she could be an interesting character so maybe I won't hate her.
Funny that God is like "y'all done screwed up. Why am I the only one doing anything around these parts. Sigh. You get one more chance and that's it." And just drop kicked mc into this world sjsjsjssj
NGL the guiding is kinda