I mean, you won't really understand coz you're not in her shoes(which is really good for you that you're not) and no one can 100% understand them. They might not have self respect or they cannot afford to have self-respect on them. Also, it's not only the family who can force you into that marriage, it might be the society, situation or your own desire. And that's all for my yapping. [But yeah the emperor is disgusting like yuck and tf]
Afaik, I'm not talking about real life here. I'm still talking about characters of fiction. To understand something, we should have enough information to interpret however in a story controlled by an author, the info we get are limited by the author. So, The thing is, we won't understand why they "don't have self respect" unless we will be given enough context. (Anyways, I'm just yapping. Just ignore this. Just my occupational hazard doing its thing)
Rather than showing the physician, I'll show you? Is there no option to not show both? Lol
And I'll never understand women who marry men of power with multiple wives unless they're forced by their family, like, don't you have self respect? Marrying a man who's as old as your father and ugh fvcking him? Ew. I hope the consort hurts. Also the emperor? Marrying someone the same age as his daughters? Disgusting