Red flag and black flag but good(?)

Try “Palace of Bardo” seme did hurt uke in their past lives but he changed in their new life, just read it to understand it’s rlly good

PASSION

he did hurt uke physically tho. Maybe he's the craziest man I've ever written. Nevertheless I like him a lot.

SADISTIC BEAUTY BL!!!
Pretty fucked up, I would say but then again not that fucked up

LIMA SYNDROME!!!
an onegaverse world where the seme and uke are both alphas but the uke does something to the uke....I wonder what...

EASY TO NOTICE!!!
my all time favourites and I highly reccomend

I have lists "good ones you should read" and then "traumatize yourself" and they are both yaoi.

Sorry for the typos

bruh idk about the last one but in both Sadistic Beauty and Lima Syndrome the tops hurt the bottom so much. SB top beats the fucking shit out of the bottom and rapes him, while in Lima the top rapes the bottom as well as lets him get gangraped intentionally. they're like the complete opposite of what op asked for.

anyways it's unfortunately difficult to find the kind of story you're looking for op, but here's some i think will fit the bill:
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/dear_sister_i_ve_become_a_blessed_maiden/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/shutline/(this one's really good, the chemistry between the two leads is *muah*)
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/itou_san_kuraka_sui/

Now that I think about it, your right. God damn, reading so much of these are kind of blinding me- anyway thanks for reminding me. I really need to socialize in the community more