Yessaahh I've been waiting the assertiveness too! But sincerely, about what Tak said I think I can understand, people love in different ways. The thing of a strong passion is more of a illusion of the movies sometimes but there's a lot of people who just love casually without much thought on it or drama.
For me, specifically, (since is my point of view too) I am in the aroace and autistic spectrum, I also can't understand the feeling of loving someone, its not something that I ever felt or I think I never felt it, when I like someone I like the company of them, but not necessarily want to be all romantic with them, I just wanna stay close. I personally dont try to date anyone because I know my view of a relationship is that restricted and that can hurt the person if they expecting me to have those romantic attraction, but I still feel needy and still want to be in a relationship.
So when tak says "if you find someone who is like that with you you go" it looks pretty much the "aroace situation" of wanting to date someone but then tell to them sincerely that you can not change the way you "love".
But that's a guess because I felt this was relatable
THIS!!!! This is sth I've been talkkng about with my friends. HONESTLY, BEING ASERTIVE IN WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT YOU CAN DO. Now, its Sanho turn to decide what to do and if he is ok with this. In my point of view, I wont accept it, because the other part has in mind to be separeted from me (Sanho) before being together, I'm not willing wasting my time,my efforts my emotions in sth like that. I'd rather to look for sth more like what I aim. ' I 'll let you go when you find someone who can love you the way you want'. Aaaamm. Even if I love this person, this statement wil make me feel anxious and probably frustrated. Somehow, I' m not good enough. Yes, it's my insecurities, my problem that's why I never accept this. But if Sanho o whoever are ok wth this, it's great, since the other part is honest