In my country no matter whats your religion is, you have to be a virgin and bleed on your wedding night, basically the family honor is between my legs in my hymen, am 36 years old single virgin unmarried woman, and also iam considered a spinster in my country and no one wants me and I still have to remain pure and virgin until i die
You are one extremely paciente woman. I can't imagine the life you've had, to be denied the rights to a healthy sex life. We women and men all feel the urge to experience a close sexual relationship that often start in our puberty, but that doesn't mean that I have to marry my first boyfriend, for crying out loud.
And why can't the "family honor" depend on the man not sticking it in where it fancies them.
That said, not all women has a hymen and some have a very flexible hymen that doesn't tear with penetration. How about I as a woman decide for myself what and who I do with my body and everyone else can just mind their own business.
Well am not the only woman like that , most unmarried women in my country remain virgins untill they die , there is a low percentage of unmarried women who have sex outside of wedlock but in secret if they got caught they cold be prisoned by the police or their families and in some extreme cases killed by their fathers , and unfortunately not all men understands the types of hymen, just a few days ago a bride was murdered by her husband because she didn't bleed and he thought she was not a virgin so he killed her to avenge his honor, my comfort zone is reading all this manwhas and try living through them because my reality sucks
I'm sorry you have to experience something like that :c
I'm sorry you have to experience something like that just for living :c I'm flag you found something that can help you through
My heart really goes out to you more and more, for every sentence that you write. I am so angry, chocked and appalled by the things you have told about that poor woman that was killed by her husband, makes me want to rip something apart. I can never say "I understand" because what you live daily I couldn't imagine in my wildest dream that life is that though for woman around the world, makes me feel extremely sheltered in my country. My father always told me growing up 'there's nothing a man can do, that you can't do better', and I love that he taught me to never depend on a mans approval.
I'm glad for you that this website gives you some kind of "escape" from everyday life and thoughts, and if you ever need some cheering up don't hesitate to write me.
And never forget you are enough and you are beautiful and amazing because you are a woman.
Dang which country are u from......
It's an Arab country wich have multiple religions, but the traditions of this country is above any religious beliefs, all practiced religions are against that traditions but the people still goes by those outdated and absurd traditions, so it doesn't matter if your a Christian, Muslim, jew or even an atheist as a female you have to be virgin and pure untill marrige or death , and as a man you can do whatever and you can get away with rape by marrying the victim and get away with abuse and murder under the name of an honor crime ,
Disgusting standard, it was okay for men to sleep around while they will lose their mind once it comes for woman. Oh, and doesn't have blood during the first time doesn't mean she's not a virgin. So dumb, and the fact that these kind of things still happening around in this era, oh come on its 2024. To deserve someone how you want them to, you need to keep yourself the same state, then its fair no?