yes i fkn understand trauma y'all

Not everyone is going to deal with traumatic situations the same way though some people have a hard time completely cutting ties with their abusers and especially when said abuser is a close relative. It can be frustrating for onlookers but at the end of the day there is no such thing as the perfect or wrong response when it comes to trauma

+1

It's a pretty good answer and I agree with everything but the part about wrong response to trauma not existing, because there's a lot of wrong responses to trauma, as understandable as they are, like in Sohan's case. He's clinging to the remains of his family to the point of letting everything that his dad do pass, at least for now, he's letting himself be used and altho totally understandable it's wrong and not healthy.

EXACTLY like yea i understand having different responses but hell a self destructive(it can actively harm sohan bc yk the dad's an asshole) one like this??? ofc sohan's not the only one to blame, but damn it's frustrating

the way i interpreted the comment was, ppl process trauma in different ways and they're all valid even if some of them are not healthy. sohan's response isn't favorable but it's understandable like you said, and very realistic

Thank you that's exactly what I meant!

Oh ok then it's probably a misuse of the word

I personally don't think that unhealthy = wrong because "wrong" would imply that there is a right way to deal with trauma and there isn't. Trauma fucks people up and the way they respond to it isn't their fault, it doesn't mean that they do not need help to learn how to deal with it healthily but calling it wrong or saying that they're dumb for reacting one way or another kinda has the same vibe as victim blaming (not that it is exactly the same as victim blaming but yk).

yes but in therapy, the therapist do categorized responses to trauma and unhealthy responses is indeed dubbed as a wrong/bad response.(from my personal experience.) i am not trying to victim blame and i will not criticize trauma responses from real people irl either. BUT here my case stands with sohan, in fiction, there is such a thing called characterization. when a character is written, they will have personalities and behavior that complies with this characterization, i am not wrong for saying that in this story, this specific action of sohan is WAYY off from his character, which causes utter frustration with how he handles this situation

There actually are wrong ways to deal with it, that doesn't make it not understandable, nor unrealistic, but it's still wrong. It doesn't mean they deserve to be criticized for it, it just means they need help to learn to deal with it the right way.

*Unhealthy not wrong, otherwise that is litteraly what I just said but let's agree to disagree I suppose lmao have a nice day

I'm not going to go over the whole rightwrong thing again or this will never end lol but I don't think it's out of character for him to do that, he did take Sihwa in after he forcefully barged into his life and sexually assaulted him, and this isn't me saying that Sihwa is anything like his dirt bag of a dad but he does seem to give in easily when it comes to pushy people in general, he felt bad for Sihwa so he let him live with him and even tried to help him find his father and the same goes for his dad after he guilt tripped him into allowing him to stay for a while especially because Sohan's dad knows which buttons to push to manupilate him he's done that his whole life.

It is not (￣∇￣") you said and I quote "wrong would mean there's a right way to deal with trauma and there isn't" which isn't true, there's definitely wrong ways to deal with them, Sohan right here is one example, and there are far worst ways that some people use to deal with it, the world isn't black or white, just because we can recognize that it's wrong doesn't mean that it's their fault for coping like that. Dumb ≠ wrong