She can't manipulate and groom a murder war child not think that's not gonna have consequences
Yap
She's mentally ill , and the ones that were supposed to help her where not even in the situation anymore. Also , bro was far gone . He got his memories early and he ended up getting his own revenge not hers . She's getting consequences of associating with him not for what she has done .
They're both bad people because they're hurt but that doesn't excuse them being bad to other people or each other. You cannot try to manipulate a child because of your trauma and daddy issues and before you say "he's got his adult memories back" she didn't know that. She thought he was a useful, ignorant innocent child that she could use and take advantage of.
Calling her the ass ain't right when you take in the fact she either has to save her people or her kid . She bested the royals for her family honour and aiht no way she leaving that. On top of it , as much as she loves her son , she knows she can't provide for him because he looks like the bastard that made her disillusioned with trust issues.
Stop blaming the girl and blame the man that's going to use a child against her.